The objective behind this paper is to analyze and argue the importance of Tinder, as an online dating application and its impacts on introverts and their social identities. Since its advent, Tinder has made dating relatively easy and there seems to be an increase in the number of users. Introverts, who are usually shy and reserved, are also making a move on this particular platform. Thanks to tinder, introverts are able to forge their own identities so as to be able to express themselves correctly. For the purpose of this paper, research has been performed on the dating application by looking at some profiles where they mentioned being an introvert in their bios and to relate furthermore, reading on introverts’ identities on dating applications were performed alongside some investigations on scholarly papers talking about introverts and their experiences on Tinder. As a result, tinder has proved to be a gateway for these people to finally negotiate their identity and break their shell. Thus, Tinder is not only promoting but also helping in shaping an introvert’s identity through self-presentation, its features and the swipe and match technique.
Keywords: #tinder #introverts #identities #datingapplication
Online dating platforms have grown massively over the years. Since the emergence of Web 2.0, application such as Tinder has encountered a rise in popularity with more people downloading and using it. Thanks to this invention, an individual can easily find his/her soulmate without huge complexities and all that, in span of minutes. However, to be successful on an online dating application, the creation of a decent profile is a must. When creating a profile on Tinder, a bio can be employed to describe you, your life and your likings. This is how you can match with other users and start a conversation instantly. There are also features available that automatically insert a statement to your profile to describe the type of person you are in case you are unable to converse properly hence demonstrating how introverts are hugely favorized. In order to create a good profile though, one must possess a clear identity to be able to connect to other users since this is how they will get to know you beforehand. Identity refers mainly to an individual’s personality and characteristics (King, 2017). There are also other factors that influence one’s identity such as religions, race and so on. However, on dating applications, the most important one would be Social Identity as it has the power to impact on how someone depicts himself and the way the latter communicates with other individuals. It can be described as a person’s group of belongings in terms of race, gender or religious beliefs (Terry, Hogg & White, 1999). What is more fascinating about dating applications is everybody can be successful and no one is imprisoned by their incapability. Introverts for example, who can be described as those who accept loneliness by spending time by themselves or refuting to voice out their thoughts, can perfectly fit in as Tinder allows them to be their authentic self by providing them a platform to communicate and hence discover new people (Dossey, 2016). Throughout the years, Tinder never ceased developing and innovating. They managed to insert features and increased their audiences which in turn are beneficial for introverts with confidence problems. Moreover, the dating application plays a pivotal role in finding soulmates for people even introverts. This paper will argue that Tinder paves way for Introverts to negotiate their social identity through the use of bios in profiles to express themselves correctly, implementing new ice-breaking features to start a conversation and the swipe and match method to help find other people in the same area.
BIOS IN PROFILES
To begin with, Tinder users have the opportunity to get to know each other through short biographies accessible when designing profiles. By writing an efficient Tinder bio, you are assured to attract quality matches. The biography in short, reflects the type of person you are and your likings. However, it is not as straightforward as it appears to compose an authentic bio especially for introverts who have trouble in voicing themselves. But thanks to Tinder, introverts have managed to self-portrait the type of individual they are. Self-presentation can be described as being the way an individual depict himself towards other individuals to create a particular impression (Rui & Stefanone, 2013). On Tinder, it is possible in doing so by adding a biography and uploading your preferred pictures. Upon creating a profile, introverts are able to convey their social identity since profiles are essential to provide an overview about yourself to other users and hence, making an effect (Utz, 2010). The bio may contain for instance the age, religion, region and sometimes even personal goals and ambitions. Pictures can also be used and moreover what is more amazing, is you can connect your Tinder account to another social media platforms such as Instagram or Facebook. In this way, it is effortless for another person to get to know you more in depth. Biographies are a promotional tool that deliver a vital touch of your personality and a key point to start a conversation with random persons. Compared in real life where introverts would never dare to go and speak with the person they have a preference for, Tinder offers the exquisite occasion to introverts to speak for themselves without even saying a word through biographies where they can self-present in hope of attracting someone who would understand them. Self-presentation can be deemed also as being a “planned enactment” which users take time to ponder on since they want at all cost to portrait their authentic self to avoid being disappointed when encountering other users in reality (Degen & Kleeberg-Niepage, 2021). Adding on, it is said that identities are founded through communications with other human beings. With the persistent evolution of technology, it is claimed that not only the quantity of information has risen but also the relationships we engage in, have extended (Burnett & McKinley, 1998). With that being said, Tinder has set the bar for introverts to not only being able to express and promote their social identity but for also actually meeting other introverts. The identity of being an introvert is enhanced and thanks to the dating application’s intriguing algorithm, the chances of an introvert of meeting another introvert are heightened. Lastly, writing an excellent Tinder bio could help in improving and boosting one’s creativity and confidence as the dating application acts as a “third place.” Third Place is a term used to define an area differencing between two traditional social surroundings where a person spends time to interact and build relationships (Campbell, 2016). For introverts, Tinder is a third space where they are conformed in a new reality in which they can be themselves and be proud of who they are as the latter promotes fluid communications.
IMPLEMENTING ICE-BREAKING FEATURES
Another method Tinder allows introverts to be their true selves is by implementing new features that are ice-breaking conversation starters. As stated above, introverts tend to be perceived as being someone anxious and unwilling to make the first step. Hence, Tinder decided to come to their rescue by introducing several prompts. One example would be the ‘Two truths and a lie’ where the users are asked three questions and they have to determine which is real and which is fake. The prompts are visualized in card shapes that are organized below one’s profile. Introverts when making use of this certain prompt, are encouraged to reveal something personal about themselves and by this means, breaking the anxiety barrier and actually contribute. Furthermore, Tinder promotes creativity and humor. When writing the statements on your profiles, in order to attract maximum of people, a creative and amusing approach is recommended to differ you from other simple and plain statements. Whilst in Bio, you have the control to write freely, there exist prompts on Tinder which helps write statements according to your likings. Introverts who are deemed to be anti-social, can easily break the stereotypes and engage themselves socially to befriend and meet people. Moving on, the tremendous shift of dating sites to dating applications facilitated the lives of introverts. While dating sites had limits and restrictions, dating applications thanks to Web 2.0, are more affordable and less bothersome. For instance, dating apps can be used on smartphones which signify they are absolutely accessible anywhere. Proposing henceforth “mobility, proximity, immediacy, authenticity and visual dominance,” Tinder appears as the best ground-breaking method for introverts to interact with other people (Chan, 2017). Also, the idea you could meet your soulmate on Tinder can pressurized the user to exhibit their best self and help in growth of the latter’s identity. From being an introvert to becoming an extrovert, the shift from being shy, reserved to becoming confident in your skin and participating more in social activities among other people can be awakened through the new Tinder’s features. This is possible because Introverts feel part of a community and Leaver (2015) states online platforms are not merely about a typical person but rather as a group enrolled collectively. This statement actually pushes someone to feel comfortable and be themselves while being surrounded with a group of individuals that motivate them to perform better and hence, acknowledging themselves without any anonymity.
SWIPE AND MATCH METHOD
Finally, Tinder impacts the social identity of an introvert through the use of the ‘Swipe and Match’ procedure. Swipe and Match allows users to find someone compatible by swiping at various profiles. The swipe method consists of three options; either swiping left which signify dislike or pass, swiping right which indicate like or swiping upwards which imply a strong interest (Kallis, 2020). Here, introverts are offered a choice to pick and choose whoever suit them best. Moreover, Tinder always delivers to its users the best ultimatum that is, whenever you are swiping on a profile, it is the profile of a person living in the same vicinity as yours. Thereby the chance of actually meeting in real life and exchanging more than just in text messages, is genuine. Introvert who are well aware of this fact, have no other option than upending themselves. This in turn, birth the community concept where all users are connected together and share a common interest. People can henceforth share personal sympathy and motivate growth among themselves. Besides, Tinder presents a new set of experiences for users. The swipe and match process can be viewed as a gaming activity where the swiping is devised to refer to participation (Garda & Karhulahti, 2019). The game’s foremost goal is to rank users by how they effectively match with other participants hence supplying motivation to generate an authentic and sincere profile. Adding on, matching with someone online and offline are two distinct encounters. Online, the introvert has all his time to get to know the other person, to be his true self and to explore and discover. This in turn, prepare the latter mentally for the day he will have to connect in real life. Having gathered all the knowledge through Tinder, the person will be more apt to deal with relationships and communicating his feelings instead of being confined as he was. Tinder also helps in making an introvert becoming more self-conscious that is, being an ignorant in the past on how dating works, thanks to the dating application, the latter gets to discover this unknown world and hence becoming a part of his identity and finally be able to form part of a community.
FEAR OF FAKE PROFILES
However, Tinder is regarded as malevolent to some. With the possibility of anybody creating a profile, the rise of fake identities is undisputed and the encouragement of identity theft cannot be under-looked. With that being said, the establishment of fake profile leads to ‘catfish.’ Catfish can be defined as the concept of inventing a counterfeit profile with the main intent to dupe somebody else. Studies report that dating applications contain most catfish compared to Social Network Sites such as Facebook or Instagram (Sevi, 2019). It is easier to impersonate somebody else on Tinder since the latter demands private questions such as age, likings and whereabouts and the use of your own pictures as well. In addition, Tinder is said to promote cheating as well. According to an Australian study, 10% of tinder users despite being in a committed relationship, cheated on their partners (Timmermans, Caluwé, Alexopoulos, 2018). There are elevated chances when an individual grapples with another person, the latter is not who he is pretending to be or he is already engaged in a relationship. These could be a severe blow for one’s confidence and self-esteem. However, despite all those negative claims, Tinder still remains one of the best and successful dating applications available in the world. This proves the platform efficiency in building relationships and forging identities is way bigger and better than the number of issues linked to people dealing with fake profiles or having their identity stolen. Despite the presence and the risk of facing fake persons with fake identities, it is reported that Tinder is implementing background checks which can be used to verify the authenticity of a profile. In this way, one can without great impediment finds out whether the person they are chatting with is legitimate or not. Thanks to such advance from Tinder, users are guaranteed to escape from ill-intentioned person and browse safely and confidently on the platform.
In light of the above discussion, Tinder can be described as an online community that is accessible to introverts to express themselves correctly and forge and promote thereby their social identities. Introverts can write their own bios where they can self-present in any way they want which to a certain extent, may boost their creativity and self-confidence. Adding on, new features that were introduced by Tinder are really pioneering to start and engage in a real deep conversation with another human being. Prompts can be used furthermore to help writing and adding statements to profiles about the type of person you are. With Tinder shifting dating sites to dating applications, it facilitated life of introverts also as they can use the platform anytime, anywhere they want. Finally, their Swipe and Match method offers to introverts the experience of gaming and participating as a way of meeting new person. They can choose whoever suit them best. But unfortunately, where there are benefits, there are also drawbacks present. The main one being fake profiles stealing identity thus catfishing another user. Thankfully, Tinder is not sitting idle and are encouraging background checks which can be extremely helpful to detect fake individuals. Based on the arguments, Tinder is undoubtedly supporting introverts negotiating their social identity on an online platform and consequently helping them by providing them with a third place and a community to better express their thoughts.
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40 thoughts on “Tinder: The perfect match for introverts to express their social identity.”
In regards to your point “In order to create a good profile though, one must possess a clear identity to be able to connect to other users since this is how they will get to know you beforehand. “, I was wondering what the implications of being dyslexic or having difficulties writing would mean for introverts looking for a relationship on Tinder. Do you think there I enough being done to support linguistically challenged introverts, apart from prompts on how to start a conversation? Have you found any evidence of aid in establishing an initial match from this so important bio you mention?
Thank you for reading and commenting on my paper. I really appreciate you sharing your insight and even article to back them up.
To respond to your questions, firstly even with a sense of familiarity, specially with a sense of familiarity, I do believe two introverts would be able to communicate effectively whereby it is on the dating application or in real world.
This blog – https://inspirationalblogs.com/do-two-introverts-make-a-good-couple/ demonstrates clearly how two introverts in a relationship could work with both having the same characteristics. However, this does not mean they (introverts) will not work with extroverts. The saying ‘opposite attracts’ is said with a reason and despite extroverts differing hugely from introverts, I do not think based on that speculation only, an introvert cannot date an extrovert. The pressure of doing things out of your comfort zone will still exist and this is how Tinder plays an effective part here since while communicating with each other, one get to learn a lot about the other individuals. If an introvert finds that this is a relationship deemed to doom, they can stop and search for other person (not necessarily introverts). Upon research, I found out that whether it is an introvert-extrovert relationship or an introvert-introvert relationship, both have their benefits and disadvantages. But in conclusion, it was considered better that an introvert date an introvert as they both can understand each other, you can learn more here: https://introvertspring.com/love-between-two-introverts/
Secondly, You did a great job on finding what Tinder users are using the application for and I completely agree with your findings. As the world is developing incessantly, relationship are taking a drastic turn. People are getting more interested in hook-up, one night stand than actually finding a person to spend their life with. However, as you also mentioned, “there are some looking for genuine relationships, but few.” Though the number of person looking for something casual is highly elevated than those looking for something serious, the chances of still finding a genuine relationship however limited they are, are still present.
Lastly, users are presented with various choices for their profiles and Bio is one of them. An introvert who is at the same time suffering from dyslexia, can make use of other prompts such as where Tinder automatically provides you with statement to add to your profile or the ‘two truths one lie’ feature where you have the choice to either input your own writings or make use of Tinder’s suggestions. However, for me, these are not enough. I think Tinder should implement more features to help dyslexic person not only introverts so as they can fit in.
But on the other hand, bios are not really a match-maker. Bios are used to portray yourself, acts like a “key to attracting quality matches. Sure, your photos are important, but what’s written in your bio can deepen the initial attraction and inspire someone to message you, instead of matching and moving on.” This statement clearly depicts how bio is more of a conversation starter than a match-maker. When using tinder, you will see the user’s picture first and this is how matches are made. Location also plays a huge role as Tinder promotes meeting people in the same vicinity. Only then, if you are interested then you will see the person’s bio and get to know more about him/her.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/3xwpr0/how_important_is_a_bio/ – this website is about how important bio is on tinder and how the user is actually getting matches but no decent responses. Bio not only helps an user to showcase his authentic self but also helps other members to find out more about the latter.
I hope I have been clear enough in replies to your queries. This was an amazing debate and it was an honor to share it with you. In case I missed something, do not hesitate to contact me furthermore.
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I really appreciate your response to my queries. I enjoyed our little debate and hope you do well in the next assignment. No more criticisms here 😉
This was a very interesting and well-researched paper and the arguments presented were concise and well-articulated. I agree with the fact that online dating apps such as Tinder have allowed introverts to truly express who they are through bios without the fear and anxiety of being judged by others in real life. However, I believe this only takes them to a certain point as they will eventually have to meet up with the person they’ve been talking to. I believe if introverts get too comfortable talking to someone behind a computer screen, the fear of meeting them in real life and being as comfortable would be heightened. What are your thoughts on this?
Tinder is a great way for people to match up and have conversations. However, I think physically meeting, especially for introverts would be more beneficial in terms of being able to express their identity as this takes the pressure of having formed an impression online. I liked the structuring and arguments of your essay. Well done!
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment on my paper. I am happy to learn you found it interesting and was up to your expectations.
Coming to your queries, I sincerely think Tinder as a matter of fact, prepares Introverts for events like meeting in real-life or even dating in reality than actually making them fear meeting in the real world. Talking with the user, getting to know the user, being more comfortable with them as time passes by is for me, a stepping stone to negotiate their social identity and becoming confident in their skin. When the day of meeting in real-life occurs, I do not think introverts will have much difficulty in presenting themselves to a person they are already comfortable with. I hope you got my point.
Saranya’s query did pop into my mind as well when I was reading you paper, but your response seems logical as sense of familiarity would make a real world date a lot easier. However, it did ignite a train of thought when you discussed how an introvert would be looking for another introvert.
Would two introverts be able to communicate effectively in the real world when they meet up, even with a sense of familiarity? Is it better for introverts to find a fellow introvert because an extrovert might pressure them to do things they don’t want to or might dominate the relationship? Or is it better for differences to attract so that they “complete each other” ? Did you find any research suggesting introverts would rather a relationship with other introverts?
The arguments made in this paper have been very informative and properly addressed. Within the online world, introverts have found it easier to boost their confidence and better display their identity. However, as a result of online dating, relationships bonds are most likely broken due to the involvement of cheating, which you’ve equally mentioned. Mobile applications such as Tinder do not offer a valuable alliance between online partners. This is because people’s mindset have changed when it comes to the aspect of love whereby physical credibility are now more respected than the person’s personality. To an extent, misleading interpretation of real love can ultimately alter a person’s reputation.
Do you believe that such ‘materialistic’ engagement will help introverts to better find their perfect match on Tinder? Is it proving to be a good alternative in today’s era?
I would like to thank you for reading my paper and leaving a comment. I am glad you found it informative.
You have raised some good points here especially about the cheating situation. To be honest, nobody can do anything about the cheating characteristics found in a person. If the latter wants to cheat, and cheating is in his nature, he will cheat. However, this does not mean every person is the same. I do believe on Tinder, there are some genuine person looking for real relationships and looking at Tinder’s success over the years, we can only conclude the application caused more good than harm. Signing up on Tinder comes with risks as well but nowadays, in this advanced world, risks are present everywhere. It is up to the person to decide whether or not, he/she will take the leap. In today’s era, specially with the confinement because of the pandemic, Tinder is proving to be a good alternative to spend time, ‘meeting people’ and maybe even entering new relationships.
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I also think that this was an interesting point to analyse. I thought I’d try find some research on what Tinder users are using the app for and found this blog that goes through a recent study, asking what users use Tinder for, that found:
“22.22 percent of Tinder users surveyed answered that they are “looking for a hookup,” 4.16 percent said they are “looking for a relationship,” 44.44 percent said they use it for “confidence-boosting procrastination,” and 29.16 percent answered that they use the app for other reasons.”
Hence, Devnish is right in saying the app is less so a place to find relationships, rather hook-ups. Yes, there are some looking for genuine relationships, but few.
Well-structured argument. Although the practices on the platform itself are helpful for introverts, I don’t think the practice extends beyond icebreaking. Ultimately the social practice of dating is still very much extroverted, with the conventional, wine-and-dine or coffee shops dominating the practice of dating. I think Tinder has changed dating only superficially. What are your thoughts on this?
Feel free to check out my paper as well: https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2021/2021/04/26/social-media-and-the-re-structuring-of-communities-changing-perceptions/
Thank you for reading and commenting on my paper. As you mentioned, dating is still very much extroverted but only WHEN it happens in real life. Tinder actually helps introverts by making them discover and develop their social identity. Before going on a wine and dine or even coffee date, I think you should know the person beforehand, right? This is where Tinder comes into play where the application presents you to another person and at the same time, learning about the latter. Lastly, Tinder also gives an experience to introverts who are new to the dating world. Gaining knowledge and experience prepare them for a real life encounter afterwards where they will be most comfortable with the person in front of them.
I hope I have replied your question and if not, do not hesitate to contact me furthermore. I would love to have a read on your paper, thank you for sharing.
The points you made about introverts are very good. Dating can be something stressful for introverts and dating apps such as Tinder can provide a pathway or starting point. However, dating online and real life are two different things. A one point in time they will eventually meet in real then comes the issue of online/real identity. Being online is quite easy for an introvert to create a confident self while in real life he/she might feel confuse about how to express his/her emotion. What do you recommend in this situation? Should there be a balance between online and real life conversation?
Thank you for reading and leaving your thoughts.
To answer your questions, I share your opinion on the fact that dating online and in real life differ from each other. But, I believe the experiences and knowledge gathered in the mean time on the dating app, may proved to be essential. Before Tinder, an introvert does not really know what is dating or how to date. Thanks to Tinder, an introvert has the opportunity to browse and explore the dating world and get acquainted to it. Learning and developing new skills at the same time, may be fruitful for the individual.
your paper really stood out to me after having read almost 3 paper of this stream. Dating is something everyone (i hope!) goes through. Tinder is definitely helpful in a way to introverts as they might fear face to face conversation or lack interpersonal communication skills. But don’t you think that using tinder might enhance their fear of talking to their match in real life . They might get way too comfortable to talking to a screen and prefer that communication remains that way. The introverts may even be exposed to all kinds of creeps online. They might be victims of cat-fishing like you mentioned. They might be form relationship with the fake profiles without realising it soon enough. The risks are never ending when it comes to social media communication.
You provide a fair amount of information but I feel like it lacks some in depth analysis. For example, when you talk about bio. You gave great definition and how it allows the introvert to put forward their true self to attract people without getting into direct contact with the person. But how does this differ for other people?
Good job and good luck!
I would like to thank you for taking the time of your busy schedule to read and comment on my paper.
As you mentioned, dating is something everyone should go through and Tinder is the ideal example to help those who lack confidence and is quite confined(i.e., introvert).
Coming to your queries, for me, acquiring the experiences and knowledge from the dating application, strengthen an individual’s personality and identity. You have mentioned ‘get way too comfortable,’ don’t you think getting comfortable with someone even if it is online, may help interacting in real life too? Sure online, there is a screen separating the two individuals, but the people remains the same. I do believe that Tinder actually helps the introverts to find someone and prepare them later for any encounter.
And for the bio part, I do not think it actually plays a pivotal role in the profiles of non-introverts person. Sure they can add a bio to describe themselves and their likings but when the time comes to start a conversation, they do not rely on bio. They can perfectly engage with other individuals without difficulty.
Overall great job pal!
Thank you for reading and leaving a comment, I am elated to see you have enjoyed my paper.
The reason why I did not focus and talk more on ‘Catfishing’ is despite its existence on the application, Tinder is doing its best to eradicate fake profiles and strengthen at the same time, authentic users. Also, it does not really have an impact on an introvert’s identity. I mentioned it because it is an issue that I think needs to be tackled and Tinder actually doing it, is demonstrating how much it cares for its users and how much providing them with the best interest actually matters.
Hello Temul, thank you for giving me the opportunity to read your paper. You have explained so well about Tinder and Introverts. I feel like nowadays we live in a world where we have lots of Introvert youngsters! I have myself met so many, in class and at work too.
they also need to have a love life according to me and I think tinder, for them is the perfect tool. The fact that you even highlighted its dark side too, makes it more realistic.
But according to you, given that you have written about both its good and dark side, do you really think it is safe for them?
Thank you for reading and commenting on my paper. I’m happy to know you share my view about the topic.
For me, every applications will have both its good sides and its dark sides. The risks exist whether it is on Tinder, Facebook or even Instagram. What is important however is what the applications’ owners are doing to offer the best experience to the users. As mentioned in my paper, Tinder is not sitting idle in the combat of eradicating fake profiles and actions are being taken quite rapidly. The background checks which can differ real person from fake one is a huge plus for the platform. Additionally, Tinder is implementing more security measures to make users feel secure and give them the best experience possible. Coming to your question, Tinder is doing its upmost to guarantee the safety of users. The risk will not vanish completely no matter what but they can be reduced. In a nutshell, what I am trying to convey here is yes and no. Yes because measures are being taken and hopefully they will be respected and no as the risk will always exist no matter what. I guess it is up to the individual to sign up and take the risk. It is worth taking actually as despite the risks, Tinder provides mostly benefits especially for introverts.
Well structured paper, I enjoyed your point where introverts are actually benefitting the platform. However, there may be some hazards while connecting to a stranger, especially the Tinder platform tends to invoke intimacy since the beginning of the conversation itself. Apart from Background checks, what measures do you think can be taken to decrease the number of fake/fear profiles?
Awaiting your response,
Feels great to hear from you!
Thank you for reading and giving your thoughts, I really appreciate it.
Coming to your questions, I did not quite get what you mean when you mentioned about ‘hazards.’ Yes, I agree Tinder tends to invoke intimacy since beginning of the conversation but however, if you are not consent, you could stop the conversation or even, in extreme cases, report the profile if it is unwanted messages from strangers. Tinder offers the opportunity to users to either accept or disregard conversations from unknown people.
Apart from background checks, I think using artificial intelligence may help in decreasing the number of fake/fear profiles. The A.I will have as role verifying the authenticity of the user’s profile picture and compare it to know whether it is a real selfie or a made up one. Checked profiles can be marked in a certain way so that others may know it is genuine.
I hope to have answered your queries, do not hesitate to hit me up if you have more.
Great paper. I enjoyed reading it. In certain situations, I also think of myself too shy to physically have a communication with others which is why I can relate to being an introvert. The ease of communication Tinder has really been a milestone for introverts. However the fear of catfish is always present on social media and not just Tinder as you mentioned.
Do you think along with the ice-breaking feature of two truth and a lie, the platform should add something more such as a ‘wave’ feature to start a conversation? And what other features do you think Tinder can add to enhance the experience of users, especially introverts on its platform?
I am glad to hear that you enjoyed reading my paper and you can in a way, relate to it. Thank you for sharing your opinions as well on the matter.
According to me, adding the wave feature would not work that efficiently. The reason behind is because the wave feature does not add much to the application. Some may find it even weird to start a conversation with a stranger especially in this manner. Compared to the two truths and a lie feature, it is much easier and less weirder as one may start a conversation in a hilarious way as it is a type of guessing game. If you get it wrong, the other can correct you hence promoting text messages between individuals.
To enhance experience of introverts on the platform, I guess adding games may help them. For instance, on messenger, there is the option of competing with other person in games such as basketball or football, where the two persons compete in who can shoot the most ball in the hoop(basketball) or who can juggle the most(football). I do find this a great way to become more comfortable with the other person and this can help introverts greatly.
Do make me know what do you think about my proposal!
Your ideas are surely innovative as an ice breaker. Though, I do find it time consuming and many users might not bite the bait, the idea is debatable. A game such as ‘Flappy Birds’ or ‘Temple Run’ which are both infinite and addictive can be attractive. Along with communication, it is also an advertisement to those applications. And with those games, the conversation can start with healthy competition and then go on from that. I do believe it is efficient but there are certainly other factors. With the games, as you mentioned, Tinder will not only be a communication application but a gaming as well.
Will those games be only for after people get a match or can it be played in general on the specific social media platform?
Nice to hear from you again. I see you got my points from earlier on. As you mentioned, with games, Tinder will not only be viewed as a communication application but also a gaming one and I think this could help enhance the dating application furthermore. In my opinion, those games should be available for person who matches with each other only rather than being publicly accessible. In this way, when a user matches with other users, if he/she is not really good at starting conversation, this is where the games come in to actions and could act as a ice-breaker.
I hope you are doing fine! Your piece of writing was very informative and I was able to know more about Tinder!
Firstly you mentioned about bios, I was really happy to learn more on the algorithms which are put forward on Tinder. You also managed to relate it with “third place”, which is a really good point!
The features present on Tinder are impressive in order to help introverts. This will offer the individuals with higher level of dating and to allow them to engage with less discomfort.
All your points were very well explained!
However, do you think that being authentic on Tinder can result as a lack of privacy? because Tinder is collecting the data to form the algorithms so as to help introverts right?
Thank you for taking the time to read my paper and dropping a comment as well.
I am glad you found it quite informative.
In my opinion, I do not think being authentic on Tinder can result as a lack of privacy. The main objective of Tinder is meeting someone to date and build a relationship. For me, there is no better way to construct and connect a truthful relationship with another individual than being our true-self. It is an advantage moreover to get to know the person entirely so that disappointments and bad surprises are avoided in the long run.
Collecting data to form algorithms furthermore, is a big plus on Tinder. It is this exact algorithm that helps people be compatible with others and thus, be a ‘perfect match.’ In this way, for introverts, it is easier for them to find other introverts as well and negotiate their identities together.
I hope to have answered your queries, do not hesitate to contact me if you have more!
Hello Temul! I hope you are doing well,
Thank you for answering my questions and for making things clear.
Good job once again!
If you are interested about identity and online advocacy, check out my paper: Instagram used as a tool by influencers to perform an “authentic” persona among users.
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Great work on the paper, I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. I’m an introvert myself and unfortunately find that Tinder still does not help with my own social anxiety. It does the edge off having to meet too high of an expectation on the dates due to the perception in my locality that Tinder is for casual dates. As technology becomes more and more invasive with IoT and smartphones however, I’m curious as how you think Tinder would adapt when faced with the possibility of loss of a big fraction of their users if forced to implement the more invasive methods of verifications? Thank you for sharing the insightful view. Regards, Roosdy.
I am elated to know you have enjoyed reading my paper and I am sorry to learn that Tinder did not help with your social anxiety. I agree with you on the fact that Tinder enhances high expectations but with the application’s success over the years, it is hard to deny that Tinder actually delivers. As for your question, in my humble opinion, I strongly believe Tinder would adapt despite the possibility of losing a big fraction of the users. Implementing methods of verifications would mean Tinder actually cares about its users as the latter is doing its best to promote authenticity among people. With more and more ‘real’ people connecting, Tinder would be viewed as being secure. The decrease in fake profiles would mean an increase in quality. As we all know, quality > quantity. When implementing their methods of verifications, even if it means losing a good quantity number of people, I do think the application will still be successful or even more as its quality will be boosted.
I hope to have answer your questions, do not hesitate to contact me if you have more queries!
Have a good day!
You have managed to tackle this topic really nicely and in an effective way. Reading about how you have highlighted a strong point in order to reassure and inducing people to using Tinder, this has changed my perception about this dating app which I believed had a lot of downsides. This efficacious dating app indeed proves to save time as compared to traditional dating and I do believe that it boosts a person’s ego and confidence, which is not only applicable for introverts. But, in fact they are the one who will mainly benefit of this program’s features, leading to a positive change in their behavior. Still I think you will agree with me when I say that, traditional dating creates a stronger bond and intimacy which you are not likely to get on Tinder. I feel like introversion is a personality trait which has emerged from the environmental factors around you as well as genetics, but somehow don’t you agree that spending time in-the-flesh with someone who makes you feel appreciated and cherished might help you overcome any kind of reticence? The impact of personal growth in an individual acquired through Tinder as you mentioned, will be more profound in person, according to me. I would like to know your thoughts on that.
Also, maybe you could have briefly underlined how introverts differ from people who are shy.
Nevertheless, I think you have clearly transmitted your message about how Tinder can be a breakthrough for this people who want to find love by staying in their comfort zone.
Firstly, let me thank you for taking the time to read and comment on my paper. I really appreciate the fact that you shared an insightful analysis of your own.
Coming to your questions, Yes for me, I do believe spending time face to face is genuinely more performant as we get to see the individual’s reaction, emotions and so on. Call me old school if you want, but I prefer traditional dating and getting to know the person in real life than on some dating platforms. But the reason behind my preference is the fact I do not visualize myself as an introvert. As you mentioned, “introversion is a personality trait which has emerged from environmental factors.” I do believe thanks to tinder, this personality trait can be eradicated that is, making the person becoming more confident in their skin, paving way for them to experience about the ‘dating life’ which may not be possible for them in reality. Sure dating in person is more fun, but when being an introvert who lacks confidence and has the tendency to embrace loneliness, I do sincerely believe that Tinder is the gateway for them to negotiate their social identity.
I hope to have answer your queries, do not hesitate to contact me if you have more.
Have a nice day!
Hi Temul, I really liked your paper!
You did not only elaborate on the different aspects of Tinder and how it helps introverts, but you also focused on its dark side, that is the presence of fake profiles that has become a major problem on most social platforms these days. Moreover, you also managed in showing that Tinder is doing its best to stop the growth of fake profiles. In short, the paper is well analysed and structured. Most importantly, the analysis is well balanced. Got to learn many aspects about Tinder thanks to your paper. Nice work!
Thank you for reading and leaving a comment.
I am delighted to hear you liked my paper. I am firmly convinced that Tinder despite being a successful dating application and used by many users across the world, is not credited enough. Sure there are risks but it is safe to say the risks are being tackled relentlessly by Tinder to assure users do not encounter unwanted meetings. Also, people such as introverts benefit a lot from the dating platform since they are practically ‘helped’ to match with other people and hence battle their introversion.
I really appreciate the content of your paper and you have indeed enlighten my mind about your topic, Tinder. I agree on the fact that Tinder unite two partner but most importantly, they get to know each other better by providing all the authentic details. As we are living in the modern era and as a professional person it is better to present provide the self details on the bio of their social media platform. With the online dating application it creates a new atmosphere where an individual has the choice to decide who to date according to the authentic self presented. As you mentioned on your paper, dating sites has the application on smartphones which is much more easier to get access anywhere and anytime. Thank you so much for giving so much information about Tinder which barely knew.
Thank you for reading and leaving a feedback. I am pleased to learn that you appreciated the paper.
You are right about the fact of providing authentic details so as to get to know ‘really’ about the other person as it helps in avoiding being disappointed when meeting in real life. Moreover, Introverts are hugely in favor because they get to be who they really are without anyone judging and may even end up with other introverts as a match.
I really liked reading your paper, you have successfully managed to link introverts’ identities with tinder. And you provided a detailed analysis of the application and how it will help an introvert to express himself or herself freely with the different option available. However social identity does not refer to online platform only and sooner or later we need to take reality into consideration. What will happen to the introvert when finally the day has come to meet his/her date? Can we really say that tinder helped the introvert to work on his/her personality trait? Has tinder build or enhance his/her personality? Will it reflect in real life also?
Thank you for reading and commenting.
In response to your questions, I do share your views on the fact that Social Identity does not refer to online platforms only.
As discussed in the paper however, I mentioned that Tinder helps an introvert in negotiating their social identity and in preparing the latter for a face to face meeting afterwards. An Introvert who in the real world can be seen as being shy and does not communicate a lot, gets an experience on Tinder which he/she may apply in the real life. Personally, I do think that the experience acquired from Tinder, has an impact on introverts’ real life identity as well and moreover, may promote growth in the individuals.
This is an interesting subject and it clearly shows the pros and cons of introverts using tinder to find their soulmates. I agree on the fact that this dating app helps introverts to be their “true-self” without having the obligation to engage in a face-to-face conversation.
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I am glad you found it interesting.
Do share the paper among your peers if you consider they might like to read about the topic.
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