Young Adolescent Friendships on
Social Network Platforms
Synn Shiuan Pan
Curtin University
Abstract
The rise of internet use has led to the establishment of various online communication technologies that are now defining how people create and maintain relationships. Social networking platforms are now used as an addition to friendships offline. It is commonly used to establish new friendships and maintaining existing ones. Philosophers have contributed their opinions regarding online friendships in journal and research studies and others through theory. According to Marlowe, Bartley & Collins (2017), digitisation has increased the use of social networking platforms in making and maintaining friendships, but it is believed that it will not replace traditional friendships but supplements it. This paper highlights some aspects used by different scholars to review the advantages of online friendships in establishing, maintaining offline relationships, and identity online on social networks platforms especially in young adolescents stages. Besides that, this will provide objections and counter objections regarding online friendships.
Keywords: face-to-face interactions, friendships online, social networks, digitisation, young adolescent
Young Adolescents Friendships on Social Network Platforms
According to Amichai-Hamburger, Kingsbury & Schneider (2013), “the essence of friendship has been deliberated by psychologists, philosophers, anthropologists and sociologists”. Amichai-Hamburger, Kingsbury & Schneider (2013) argues that friendship is a hybrid of a relationship with mutual benefit and intimacy, and the use of social networking platforms has made the concept of friendship less significant. Although there were disadvantages that were brought by the social network, research shows that it mostly brings people into a stronger community and making maintaining friendships easier than traditionally.
Today, the formation of new friendships and the way of maintaining existing friendships has changed due to social networking platforms. A significant amount of friendships is maintained and formed online on social networking platforms such as Facebook and Instagram. It is now one of the primary sources of interaction between people. The interaction between people can be entirely digitalised. For instance, friendships that are formed online can purely be online without any face-to-face interaction. Even though philosophers have questioned whether real friendships can be achieved online in a completely new world where individuals never experience face-to-face interaction (Kaliarnta, 2016). It is believed that strong ties are possible for friendships online. Without face-to-face interaction, personal information and messages can be conveyed without any tensions. Face-to-face interaction may cause unintended pressure to people by the environment or people around. According to Van Schalkwyk, Marin, Ortiz, Rolison, Qayyum, McPartland & Silverman (2017), social networking platform users utilises it to maintain and establish existing friendship ties. Social networks can strengthen ties between people as a supplement of existing friendships. Besides that, research has shown that communications online through social networks has the potential of decreasing loneliness and depression (Van Schalkwyk, Marin, Ortiz, Rolison, Qayyum, McPartland & Silverman, 2017). Establishing new friendships online is easier because it is less intimate in the beginning which makes it more comfortable for users to interact with each other. Most young people prefer online friendships due to these factors.
The main argument about the potential of online friendships is the ability of individuals to revel their real character and identity either intentionally or unintentionally. It is known that young people are more likely to share personal information online than offline (Van Schalkwyk, Marin, Ortiz, Rolison, Qayyum, McPartland & Silverman, 2017). Young adolescents are more comfortable with shortened contact and fast-paced interaction. Young people utilises social networks to develop friendships in a shorter amount of time than face-to-face interactions. According to Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton (2015), the transition of young adults to a self-focused life has led them to use social networking technologies more in assistant of their friendships, both establishing and maintaining. Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton (2015) argued that adolescents are the most significant consumers of social networking platforms such as Instagram and Facebook and this demonstrates the generational change in how personal relationships are engaged and managed. As a result, the impact of social networking platforms and online friendships have shifted from face-to-face interactions (Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton, 2015). According to Elder (2014), the affordances of social networking platforms have extended the behaviour of people to a new world of communication where they share their photos and personal lifestyle to an invisible and larger audience. Traditionally, friendships are mostly formed in places such as schools and workplace, which is usually a smaller community and less people. With the growing population of social networking platforms today, it creates a larger audience and more opportunities for people to establish new friendships online.
Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton (2015) argue that friendship is a psychological issue whose development is determined by personal attachment and character. These qualities are crucial in the life phase development of young people. In particular, these qualities include help and support, self-disclosure and liking, expressions of closeness and shared interests. However, at this life development phase, the young adults are often troubled by stress, risky and conflicting behavior and moodiness. This transition usually affects their opportunities of succeeding in the society and also maintaining their youthful cultural practices (Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton, 2015). This often causes them to have difficulties in seeing friendships and adapting their lives. Vallor (2012) argues that transitions that young people go through in life have led them to make sense of friendships as an investment, fun times together and protection. They use social network sites to create and reinforce friendships by using instant message and funny comments, especially on Facebook as a way of investing in that friendship. On Facebook, self-authenticity is a concept that youths demonstrate through photos and active displays. Facebook interactions now show how friendships are negotiated, reinforced and reworked. The young adult’s sense of friendship is a construct based on the immediate and visual friendship community, which has replaced the more intense and authentic friendships that existed before. A research has shown that young people consider friendships as “fun times together”. It is mostly just fun rather than emotional attachment and intimacy (Niland, Lyons, Goodwin & Hutton, 2015).
According to Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer (2016), young adults usually consults their friends on life issues instead of their parents. As young adults continue to interact with their friends, these friends become a source of entertainment, the foundation of identity and create a sense of belonging. Friendships are preferred by young adults because they are less normative and less strictive. Among the young adults, the critical aspects of decent social life are having more friends (Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer, 2016). Most of these friendships appear out of social networking platforms, which in several ways have strengthened the quality of friendships among the early adolescents. The increased use of these sites is due to the fact that they are comfortable to communicate, and they enhance the contact between friends. Social networks platforms are also affordable among the early adolescents who have limited financial resources. Consequently, this has led to social network sites being viewed as relationship maintenance tools and the frequent message exchanges in those platforms reduce the cost of maintaining friendships (Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer, 2016). Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer (2016) argue that there is a positive relationship between the utilisation of social network sites and quality of friendship. Online communication technologies have enhanced the communication between existing friends, and this has had a positive effect on the quality of their friendships. At the adolescent stage, there is increased importance for early adolescents to have peer relationships, but their significance becomes less relevant when they get older. These peer relationships can only be enhanced through social network sites (Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer, 2016).
However, according to Bobkowski & Smith (2013), embracing of social media is not a worldwide phenomenon mainly by the aging population who are not dedicated in adopting new technology. Despite social network sites being used to bring our social change among young adults, the majority of emerging adults have not embraced this technology. One of the most significant factors that are determining social media adoption is the age of the majority of young adults, specifically those that have already adopted technology (Bobkowski & Smith, 2013). However, Bobkowski & Smith (2013) argues that digital divide has also led to the low adoption of technology, especially among the socioeconomically disadvantaged and minority populations. People that are living in more developed countries have the highest access to online technologies and their ability to embrace those technologies is also high. Despite the increased importance of social networks in friendships and relationships in the modern society, their influence can be overlooked, particularly among the disadvantaged groups. The existence of conventional imbalance now determines who uses and benefits from the use of social networking platforms (Bobkowski & Smith, 2013).
Marlowe, Bartley & Collins (2017) highlights that non-adopters of social media mainly populate the fringes of the emerging adult group while the adopters are the young adolescents. For the emerging adults, their future goals are less clear, biographies are less straightforward, and there is less certainty about their circumstances. As a result, they have fewer social ties and have difficulties concerning how they can overcome some of the challenges they go through when using modern technologies (Marlowe, Bartley & Collins, 2017).
According to Vallor (2012), the majority of social networking platform users value it more than their utility in relationship maintenance, or even creating virtual or new relationships. It is part of their daily life routine and their source for sense of belonging (Antheunis, Schouten & Krahmer, 2016). Most social networking platforms such as Facebook and Instagram offer suggestions for friends that users might know. These suggestions are usually based on the number of mutual friends, groups, location and communities. Function that are offered by social networking platforms allow more opportunities for people to establish new friendships. Despite social networking platforms providing a few direct channels towards shared activity, they still serve as a source of friendship and a good life. It is the case because it gives emotional and informational mutuality that assist individuals to live together as friends and also pursue excellence as a group. Social media has also promoted interests of civic leadership, especially among grass root organizations and the youth.
Limitations of the Studies
Various studies indicate that there is difficulty in determining causal relationships between friendships born out of social media and the ability to support them. Besides, it was challenging to identify whether adults who use social media end up getting into relationships. It was also challenging to determine whether individuals with many offline relations also benefit from social media. The studies assumed that social network sites are a favorite among the young adolescents who seek to build lasting friendships. Consequently, this makes them fail to analyze the importance of social media networks particularly in the modern business environment where a majority of business transactions close online. As a result, online technologies are a critical tool in business. Majority of companies have global reach, and they use social network sites to interact with their customers, primarily through advertising.
Young Adolescent Friendships on Social Network PlatformsConclusion
Although research studies have revealed that social network friendships will never achieve a healthy friendship and will remain superficial, it is known that social networking platforms are useful in helping users to keep in contact with each other and maintaining a long-term friendship. It can also be used to strengthen existing friendships and friendships offline. In the modern society, the majority of offline friendships are enhanced through social networking platforms to supplement face-to-face communications and interactions. It has become one of the most significant sources of interaction between people. Social networks have transitioned the daily interactions between users, and this has led to change in the culture of connectivity. Furthermore, social media has normalised how individuals engage socially. The majority of social networking platforms have reinforced existing networks, and this has resulted in a drastic change of friendships from face-to-face to now the preferred online integration. Friendships made online can stay digitalised entirely. Despite the quality of friendships, users are able to connect with each other conveniently. Research also shown that online friendships may potentially help with loneliness and depression in young adolescents. Lastly, social networking platforms have also brought about a new sense of belonging that would have been difficult to achieve through face-to-face interactions.
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Hi Synn Shiuan, I found your paper is really interesting to read as this is the current issue that I concerned the most. In your paper, you have examined how the adolescents utilize social media platforms to create and maintain their friendships on either online or offline. I agree with the points you have made, especially the point of “young people are more likely to share personal information online than offline”. Through updating the personal information online, their friends are able to receive their current situation even though they do not have a face-to-face interaction. As you discussed above, I also found that young people are more active and comfortable with using social media to make friends and reveal themselves; as social media allows their real identity to be hidden and create an offline identity, thus, they are more confident to share whatever they want online.
Also, I like how you brought up the point of friendships are mostly formed in the smaller community; whereas now friendships are formed online and there is a larger audience base. After reading through your paper, I started to question myself about why do we use social media to make new “friends” and are we necessary to share our personal information online? Are showing off ourselves or seeking support and friends the real purpose of posting online? Are we really “friends” on the social media? The idea of “friends” online is kind of similar to my paper, feel free to have a look if you’re interested! “Celebrities online disclosure of information reinforces the parasocial relationship”. Thanks!
Would like to hear the thoughts of you.
Joanne
Hi Joanne, thank you for your comment. Friendships online is also one of my most concerned issue currently. I found that this issue is often neglected. I really liked that you brought up “the idea of friends” online. The idea of friends seems really abstract today as social networking platforms has blurred the lines between real friends and purely online friends. Also, I would be very interesting in reading your paper!
Hi Synn,
Yea I agree with you which the meaning of “friends” has been blurred. Even though people form a friendship online, a strong bond could also be created through the online engagement as well. In order words, this online “friendship” could also turn into an offline friendship. It’s an interesting topic to look further.
Hi Synn,
Thank you for sharing your paper, i enjoyed reading it.
A term you used which i had not heard of before was “self focused life” i thought this was really interesting and would love to explore it further myself… i had never really thought of it before but i see that social media has the tendency to be self focused as opposed to community/friendship focused.
I was glad to read that adolescent use social media as a support tool for friendship and not the main reason to be online, I think its healthy for them to have intimate friendships offline.
In your conclusion you stated that online friendships will never be health and remain superficial, this was a really strong statement and i am not sure the paper completely supported this argument. It would have also been great to link in the adolescent context into your conclusion.
Cheers
Jacinta
Hi Jacinta, thank you for commenting! It is very interesting to hear what your feedbacks from another perspective. I would consider your comments about my conclusion of my paper 🙂
Hi Synn Shiuan,
Your paper is engaging and well written, with many good points. It is true that we are able to develop more friends online and the quality of online friendships is different from normal friendships. This is because social media platforms provide everyone with the opportunity to communicate without the ability to really view the other person. Making friends online can be dangerous as well as people tend to not display their real identity when online. Perhaps, you
may wish to further explore on the consequences of making friends online, such as Facebook, especially in the case of young adolescents. Although shy, they may still be able to make friends online because hiding behind a profile or façade will provide them the coverage, not available
in the real world.
Overall, I enjoyed reading your paper and could relate to everything you shared. I too used to always seek new friendships online as I thought it was a cool thing to do but then realized that there are different characters online, resulting in scary and traumatizing relationships.
Hi Eng Na, thank you for your feedback. I agree with you that making friends online can be dangerous in some ways as we do not necessarily know their real identity. Most of the people we meet online does not have to some their own identity. I would further explore the suggestions you have given. Thank you!
Friendship is such a tricky concept to define. When you think about it, we have so many different types of friendships — for example, BFF’s are different to ‘Facebook friends’. Do you think social networks naturally create weak ties or is it dependent on the individuals forming the friendship?
I like the “self-focused life” term as well. I’ve been wondering lately if social media is making us a bit too focused on ourselves. Facebook always asks us what’s on our mind and Instagram invites us to share our stories.
Hey Kim!
I see where you’re getting at, I personally think it’s all dependant on the individual when it comes to forming friendships. Although you can be ‘Facebook Friends’ with someone, it’s up to each of the parties to communicate with each other offline, and create better friendships and relationships. Constant communication, creating memories and spending time with each other is my definition of friendship, although I do believe this can blossom online through constant chats etc.
There’s so many different ways of looking at it, but that’s my opinion.
Hi Kim, I agree with you that friendship is hard to define. I think that the quality of friendships formed online through social networks does not always have weak ties, it really depends how the individuals maintain and form their friendship.
Yes, social network platforms are promoting a “self-focused life” as it allows us to show a “better version” of ourselves or even create a different identity from the offline self. In contrary, Facebook statuses and Instagram story allows our followers and friends to keep up with our recent events. This makes is easier to maintain existing friendships, creating a stronger tie.
Hi Synn,
Great paper, this paper really interested me and it’s very relatable to social media these days and how friendships are made. I very much agree when you argued “It is known that young people are more likely to share personal information online than offline” and as you mentioned fast-paced interaction.
I agree 100%, because as a young social media user, I started using MySpace when I was around 13 or 14, and it allowed me to express myself and my interests to my friends and those around me, online – I also remember clearly interacting with those within my school that I had never spoken to before! Moving onto Facebook when I was 15 or 16 years old, I became more mature, yet still continued to use the website to communicate with not only family but friends of friends and people I have never met before. I like that fact that you mentioned that most, if not all social media networks these days have a ‘People you may know’ page or ‘Follow suggestions’ which assists a lot of users in finding people within their community to communicate with.
Once again, great job with you paper! Really enjoyed reading it.
Thanks for commenting! Friendships online is a topic that is very relatable to most of us. Young people are more likely to share personal information online mostly because some may think the online environment is safer and more comfortable without the face-to-face interaction. I agree that social networks platform like MySpace and Facebook really helped me communicate with my friends and family better. As an international student, it allows my family and friends back at home to keep up and maintain our relationship.
Hey Synn! I do agree that social network site changes the meaning of friend. People do not have to meet one another in real life to make friend and they able maintain the existed friendship or new friendship using social network sites! This is true that how I actually make ‘friend’ in FaceBook and we never meet each another. I also able to know how my classmates are doing now through social networks site. I am thinking if the social network sites do not exist, I would probably have ‘lost contact’ with them. However, I would also like to critique that are we really ‘keep in touch’ by just viewing, liking, commenting or sharing their post? I agree that “Young people are more likely to share personal information online than offline” but is the information they shared to shape what they ‘want’ to look or have chosen to let people know? Are we really friends that we never met each other in a real life? Is that by just contacting each another in online space which you might shape an identity that might not be ‘real’ you in the online space? Do I really ‘ ‘know know’ you, my FaceBook friend?
After all, I also question myself ‘Are these matter?’ Isn’t it as long as we enjoy the moment from one another’s presence and support at that space, the real or fake does not really matter. The new technologies is improving and progressing, if we do not move on but keep stuck in our old mind, we will be suffering from our thoughts! We should just simply accept what the world is, use what available to us, enjoy it and do things according what we want to do !
I also have written a paper about social networking site and how it facilitates community practice by using web2.0 tools. Feel free to have a look and leave comment 🙂 !
https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2018Bentley/?s=youtube
Hi Ally. Thanks for reading my paper! I understand your question about “keeping in touch”. This topic is harder to illustrate. Some may think that viewing, liking, commenting or sharing is a way of keeping in touch, others may think that it is not. Again, I think it really depends on how individuals form and maintain their friendship. The idea of friendships online is blurred as our online identity change. We constantly try to show our better self to the world. It is rare that someone would present the worst self to everyone online or offline. Social network platforms are being used as a tool in assisting us to represent ourselves online. Also, thanks for sharing your paper.