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Tradwives, Cottagecore and Clean Girls: Social Media Repositions Female Users to Embrace ‘Traditional’ Womanhood


Abstract

Trending digital content promotes traditional gender roles and family structures to women, under the guise of preserving an outdated and restrictive feminine ideal. Through discussion of the Tradwife movement, family vlogging, and popular fashion and beauty trends, such as Cottagecore and the clean girl aesthetic, the pivotal role of social media platforms in not only indicating but facilitating social change will be argued. The Tradwife movement promotes a staunchly traditional family structure, endorsing gender essentialist ideology that asserts a woman is most valuable in the home. Popular family vlogging channels, often underpinned by religious values, similarly emphasise traditional family dynamics and gender norms. Even seemingly innocuous aesthetic trends such as Cottagecore and clean girl makeup have the potential to be co-opted as tools for socio-political messaging. This paper asserts that the growing influence of these trends signals a broader shift towards social conservatism, one that may undermine the progress made by modern feminism. However, this analysis is primarily limited to Western contexts, and further research is needed to explore the intersection of these trends with a wider array of global perspectives. Ultimately, digital media’s propensity to foster regressive ideologies that confine women to traditional gender roles and hinder their personal freedoms will be argued.

“Protectiveness has often muffled the sound of doors closing against women” (Friedan, 1971, p. 72).


This paper investigates how popular digital content trends promote traditional gender roles and family structures to women by presenting them as a means of preserving and upholding femininity. The rise of the Tradwife movement and the growing presence of radical conservatism amongst family vlogging channels will be explored, to argue the pivotal role of social media platforms in indicating and encouraging social change. The influence of fashion and beauty movements will be explored to provide further insight into popular culture’s gravitation to conservatism, with reference to the Cottagecore aesthetic and clean girl makeup trend. In this context, conservatism will refer to the underpinning social ideology behind the political movement that is generally associated with upholding traditional family structures and adhering to conventional gender expectations. Popularised social media content is encouraging a return to conventional values by promoting gender essentialist ideology and emphasising heteronormativity, threatening to dismantle the affordances of modern feminism by confining women to restrictive gender roles.

#Tradwives and the Promotion of Patriarchal Gender Roles

The role of online communities in facilitating social change will first be examined through the lens of the Tradwife movement. The term ‘Tradwife’ refers to a woman who chosen to embrace a conventionally feminine lifestyle by prioritising motherhood and domestic tasks (Stotzer & Nelson, 2025, para. 3). Popular motifs of the online Tradwife persona include an emphasis on fresh, homemade meals and a gaggle of well-groomed children to nurture. Tradwives have gained increasing momentum in the years since the COVID-19 pandemic, indicative of a “growing influence and the online and offline presence of right-wing ideologies” in contemporary culture (Sykes & Hopner, 2024, para. 21). Digital media platforms are integral to the Tradwife movement as they offer immense scalability and the ability to generate political action through connecting with the public (Porta & Pavan, 2018). These platforms are used to broadcast curated and aspirational homemaking content, commodifying a wholesome domestic image that can in turn be used to exert influence on the exhausted modern woman (Sykes & Hopner, 2024). Two prominent figures in the online Tradwife community are Estee Williams and Hannah Neeleman, with a combined following of approximately 10 million users (Sherman, 2024). Pro-Trump, ultra-conservative Williams represents a caricature of the subservient housewife archetype, having co-opted Tradwife characteristics such as floral sundresses and freshly baked bread to spread her ideology (Sherman, 2024). Neeleman’s brand of traditional femininity is far more subtle: she simply gets on with work around the farm, accompanied by an “all-American husband, square-jawed and denim-clad” who provides for their family of ten whilst she manages the home (Agnew, 2024). This less direct approach appeals to a wider, more diverse audience, evidenced from her far higher following count – although it is no less capable of inciting change. Tradwives are often associated (though not always expressly linked) with extremist ideologies surrounding gender, religion and race (Proctor, 2023). It can be argued, based on choice feminism, that participation in the Tradwife movement is not inherently harmful. Autonomy is cited as the defining difference between modern Tradwives and neglected housewives of yesteryear (Proctor, 2023). But more radically conservative content is only a hashtag or two away, lurking in the recesses of the algorithms behind these digital platforms. Tradwives are romanticising patriarchal gender roles in a manner reminiscent of the strategic luring of women back into the home in post-suffrage America explored by Friedan (1971) in her novel The Feminine Mystique. In fact, the Tradwife movement bears a striking resemblance to the re-positioning of young girls to believe “fulfillment as a woman had only one definition —the housewife-mother” that occurred across America in the 1950s (Friedan, 1971, p. 72). Media has always had the power to encourage cultural change, having been utilised throughout history as a tool for socio-political messaging, and the content being promoted on contemporary digital platforms is no exception (Freelon et al., 2020). Trending online content has the power to diminish the freedoms and opportunities of young women, as it promotes ideology that confines them to the traditionally feminine roles of homemaker and mother.

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Family Vlogging and the Idealisation of Traditional Family Models

Traditional dynamics are further imposed upon social media users through the proliferation of conservative family vloggers on platforms such as YouTube. Family vlogging as a practice has steadily increased in popularity since the early 2010s, bringing with it a host of creators who document and share their everyday lives online (Kennedy, 2024). This paper will discuss how conservative religious groups utilise social media and the popularity of family creators to promote traditional values with reference to the Labrant family. It is critical to understand the “common thread that runs between many family vlogging channels” – that is, a deep enmeshment with religious faith (Smith, 2023). At its core, this observed connection can be seen to uphold traditional nuclear family models and place emphasis on adherence to patriarchal gender expectations (Smith, 2023). The underlying presence of religion in family-centred content can be traced back to the initial days of Web 2.0, where many early members of the ‘mommy blogger’ scene were Mormon (Edwards, 2024). By taking place in the home, digital labour “aligned with religious expectations for Mormon women” as it did not threaten patriarchal gender expectations (Edwards, 2024, para. 6). This thread has continued to permeate contemporary family content, and internet users have noticed the trend: “if we wanted to get drunk really quickly, we could play a game where we take a shot every time someone thinks of a family vlogger, and they’re Mormon.” (Latifi, 2024). Despite the humorous context, this internet-user has effectively described a core tenet of Mormon faith, which urges members to spread the gospel through digital means such as “blogs, social networks and other internet technologies to amplify their voice in promoting faith” (Lloyd, 2018). This focus on digital platforms as a tool for spreading traditional family values can be seen in the example of evangelical Christian vloggers Cole and Savannah Labrant. The Labrant’s have amassed 12.8 million subscribers on their YouTube channel, with their child-friendly content gaining them immense popularity. Over the years, the Labrant’s wholesome, family-centred image has taken on a more aggressively political stance. In 2022, they uploaded a self-produced documentary on abortion that compared rates of terminated pregnancies in the U.S to global holocausts (C. Labrant & S. Labrant, 2022). Encouraging the women and girls of their audience to prioritise family and motherhood above their personal desires is particularly dangerous as a major component of YouTube’s audience is made up of very young, impressionable children (Moyer, 2022). Research has also been conducted to suggest that female audiences enjoy watching vlogs more than male ones, further exposing how young women are increasingly at risk of falling down the alt-right pipeline via this content (Ceci, 2025). The rise of family channels promoting traditional values has considerable potential to influence young female audiences and increase rates of conservatism.

Cottagecore Fashion and the Co-opting of Online Aesthetics

Fashion is a form of self-expression that can be utilised as a “medium of political communication” to indicate cultural ideals and values (Oh, 2018). The role of popular online fashion trends in encouraging the preservation of traditional womanhood will be asserted through exploration of the Cottagecore aesthetic, exemplifying how alt-right movements have co-opted certain online movements to encourage socio-political change. Cottagecore is a fashion and lifestyle subculture known for idyllic portrayals of nature, homesteading and countryside living (Sierpień & Tucki, 2024). The aesthetic movement gained massive popularity in the wake of the pandemic, evidenced when “searches for ‘cottagecore fashion’ increased by 80% between June 2019 and June 2020” (Sierpień & Tucki, 2024, p. 172). Hallmarks of Cottagecore fashion can be gleaned from a quick Google image search: milkmaid necklines, cosy floral cardigans and flowing ankle-length dresses – perfect attire for frolicking on acres of farmland without a care in the world. Yet the whimsical, girlish image constructed is anything but innocent. Historically, gender stereotypes in fashion and clothing norms have created an “image of women as apolitical”, better suited to gentle, nurturing roles than engaging with traditionally masculine spheres such as politics (Oh, 2018, para. 6). Cottagecore fashion bears a strong stylistic similarity to this traditional hyper-feminine ideal, with favoured silhouettes being modest, sweet and soft. While most online aesthetics do not expressly align themselves with political movements, the “domino affect” associated with the algorithms of social media sites is cause for concern (Owen, 2024). Due to Cottagecore’s aesthetic similarities with more overtly conservative movements (such as #Tradwives) casual enjoyers of the fashion trend can quickly find themselves being “manipulated into political recruitment” (Owen, 2024). This is not to suggest that users should avoid participating in online fashion subcultures entirely. After all, fashion can be an individualistic form of self-expression that celebrates diversity rather than dampening it. Could floral patterns and flowing frocks really be a façade for something more sinister? The potential for seemingly innocent aesthetic movements to manipulate everyday users’ algorithms is exemplified in a social media comment from @baixueagain; “something I’ve come to learn from trawling cottagecore-related tags is that you can’t go two steps without tripping over a tradwife or a white supremacist”. It is necessary to acknowledge the underlying association popular feminine aesthetics such as Cottagecore can have with right-wing ideologies, in order to understand why some women may be increasingly gravitating towards conservatism.

Clean Girl Makeup and the Rise of Purity Culture

Feminine beauty ideals have fluctuated throughout history, informed by a variety of social influences and cultural values (Sugg, 2018). The use of online makeup and beauty content as a tool for political messaging will be examined with reference to the ‘clean girl’ aesthetic that has dominated social media in recent years. Followers of this trend can be seen using minimal, lightweight makeup products to create a polished and effortless appearance. Bare faced beauty is in, with soft pigments, taming gels and luminous formulas making up some of the hottest products on the market right now (Stern, 2024). Various other copy-cat trends have emerged such as ‘vanilla girl’ and ‘cold girl’ makeup that similarly feature minimalistic looks focused on highlighting women’s natural features in an understated manner. As consumers have moved away from the bold and colourful makeup looks popularised on social media in the late 2010s, this shift can be proposed as a natural pendulum swing effect. This effect compares societal change to the “swinging back and forth” of a pendulum, wherein values and cultural ideals shift from one extreme to the other across a broad range of areas – even the beauty industry (Fuller, 2017). However, retaliation to heavy glam makeup and rebellious individualism cannot wholly explain the cultural shift to favouring natural makeup. The very name of this trend is indicative of conservative values surrounding purity culture – what exactly makes a girl ‘clean’, anyway? The women championing this makeup look promote rigorous hygiene and self-care: smooth, straightened hair, clear skin and an overwhelming sense of whiteness. The racially charged undertones of this trend have been called out online, with users noting that the “same gelled edges and glossy lips that were once dismissed as “ghetto” are now the epitome of effortless elegance on white women”, demonstrating the trend’s evident lack of diversity (Duong, 2025). Descriptors such as ‘unclean’ and ‘dirty have been used throughout history against people of colour to uphold racist ideals of white purity (Thomas, 2022). The underlying racist connotations and concerning emphasis on purity culture promoted by the ultra-popular clean girl makeup expose the drawbacks of social conservatism, highlighting the potentially harmful consequences a total return to traditional values may lead to.  

The content promoted to users on popular social media platforms is reflective of a growing presence of social conservatism in both online and offline spaces. The lifestyle and aesthetic trends of Tradwives, family vlogging, Cottagecore and clean girl makeup do not only indicate a rightward swing, but they also actively contribute to women adopting traditionalist views that may hinder their personal freedoms. This paper is limited by a narrow geographical focus, with the discussed phenomena having mainly gained significance in the Western World. Furthermore, the emphasis these trends place on whiteness and colonialism excludes women of colour (WOC) and women outside of western countries. Further research into the experience of WOC and their engagement with these trends is required to make an assessment on the changing socio-political values of women globally. It can nonetheless be argued that the use of digital media to preserve ‘traditional’ patriarchal feminine ideals is indicative of increasing rates of conservatism, facilitating social and political change.

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32 responses to “Tradwives, Cottagecore and Clean Girls: Social Media Repositions Female Users to Embrace ‘Traditional’ Womanhood”

  1. Eva Avatar

    Hi Lily,

    Your paper mentions “choice feminism” as a defense for women participating in Tradwife content. I’m curious to know, do you think personal choice is a suitable justification despite all these external influences such as algorithms. commercial incentives and general conservative pressures?

    To what extent do you think people can engage with trends like Cottagecore or clean girl makeup without inadvertently endorsing or participating in conservative ideologies? I’ve seen creators try to oppose these shifts with “dirty makeup” looks, do you think it possible to reclaim these aesthetics in explicitly feminist or subversive ways?

    Really enjoyed your paper, thanks for sharing it!

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Eva,
      Thanks for taking the time to read my piece. It’s a great point you bring up about the suitability of “choice feminism” as a justification for partaking in these seemingly repressive and outdated movements. In many instances, I don’t think it is a valid argument. A lot of the women who dedicate themselves to these lifestyles both online and offline are influenced greatly by external factors such as religion and family – it’s not a truly autonomous decision. Here’s a link to a TikTok creator that explains a bit better: https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSh8S6Ytc/

      As you mention, even other female viewers who may not be so influenced by these sorts of factors are still vulnerable to algorithmic pushes, commercial incentives and general conservative rhetoric. I find “choice feminism” on the whole to be somewhat flawed … but I digress.

      I definitely think it’s possible to engage in the fashion and makeup trends I discussed without explicitly enforcing conservative ideologies; they can be a positive form of self-expression after all. I think the danger comes when you start encountering that ‘pipeline’ effect with more overtly right-wing trends like #Tradwives. ‘Messy Girl’ makeup is a great example of how these aesthetic movements can be reclaimed and subverted, as the looks are still simple and understated – just without the racist undertones.

      I’d love to know your thoughts on “choice feminism”… could Tradwives really be the ultimate feminists?

  2. Georgia W Avatar

    Hi Lily,
    I thought this was an interesting read and you seem to have a lot of evidence from a wide range of sources discussing these rising social trends! I had previously not necessarily thought about the connections between family blogging, cottage core and clean girl makeup trends in pushing underlying political agendas, but I thought the way you drew connections between these seemingly disparate trends was insightful. In particular, I thought your commentary on the underlying racist tones of the idea of the “clean girl”, given the historical context of the use of such words was a great point to bring attention to. Do you think that these predominantly ‘white’ trends knowingly or unknowingly exclude POC? Or do you think these trends are less based in a racial context and are more driven by religious, political or financial goals? In addition to this, would you say that the rise in conservative content online in recent years is just a product of the current political climate? Or do you believe it is signaling a larger, more long term social shift to more traditional gender roles?

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Georgia,
      Thank you for taking the time to comment. I think for many of the everyday users who participate in these trends the exclusion happens unknowingly. I myself have engaged with clean girl makeup and Cottagecore fashion in the past without thinking too deeply about the possible colonial and racist connotations. Nonetheless, when you conduct a Pinterest search the term ‘Tradwife aesthetic’ and can scroll for 5 minutes without coming across a single woman of colour, the excluding of POC (whether intentional or not) is clearly demonstrated.

      I do believe these trends are more so driven by political and financial motivations, however these factors can be deeply intertwined with religion and race. This makes them difficult to separate and often interconnected as we see with the trends of family blogging and clean girl makeup.

      Your questions surrounding the rise of conservatism as a result of the current political climate or signalling a more long term social shift are very complex to consider. I think in large part many of these trends we are seeing are indicative of something broader happening socially in a pendulum swing response to ultra progressive movements such as ‘Girlboss feminism’, though they can definitely be easily co-opted as propaganda tools by the right. I’m curious to know your thoughts on whether you think the flood of traditional trends is due to current political happenings or is it reflective of something bigger, culturally?

      Thank you for reading!

      1. Georgia W Avatar

        Hi Lily,
        You make some interesting points! I find it interesting that as a society, even in this day and age we are still unknowingly perpetuating racist or harmful stereotypes and ideologies.

        I think the rise in conservatism has significantly been driven by the current climate of rising political instability and unknown of what the future may hold for people across the world. In times of stress, there tends to be a larger focus on the home and family unit. However that is not to say that trad wife trends haven’t been influenced by the challenges of modern women who are trying to balance not just “maternal responsibilities”, but also work, social lives and personal wellbeing. I think the rise in discussion about traditional gender roles alongside female empowerment, brings to light some of the discrepancies between our hopes/ expectations of our roles, and reality. I think this discussion illustrates the broader hope for a shift towards a more balanced interplay between each gender in today’s world.

        I have written on a related topic if you wanted to check it out! It discusses the role of women in empowering others via digital platforms, and how aspects of identity are able to inform this discussion. https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2025/ioa/4970/women-and-the-fitness-industry-how-emmaline-howard-is-helping-to-change-our-relationship-with-health-and-fitness/

        1. Lily Avatar

          Thank you for your thoughts, I’ll be sure to check out your paper!

  3. Ava Spurling Avatar

    Hi Lily,
    Thank you for such an insightful and engaging piece. Your selection of topic is highly relevant in todays society, and I found your analysis both thought-provoking and thoroughly enjoyable.

    Nara Smith immediately comes to mind when I hear the word “tradwife.” It is striking that someone only a few years older than myself has already embraced a lifestyle centered around domesticity and child-rearing—something that feels quite distant from my own experiences and expectations.
    Your piece also brought to mind a historical reference I encountered during high school: the phrase “Kinder, Küche, Kirche” (“Children, Kitchen, Church”), which emerged in 19th-century Germany and was later adopted by the Nazi regime to promote traditional gender roles. Would you say that this phrase still holds relevance in today’s tradwife movement?

    I had no idea the LaBrant family had produced a documentary. I can understand short-form content like Instagram reels or TikToks sharing their opinions, but a full-length documentary seems like a step too far.

    Personally, I love the cottagecore aesthetic (thank you, Pinterest!). I’ve also come across Hannah Neeleman’s Instagram before and remember thinking her life on a farm raising eight children looked like an absolute dream. Would you say that the cottagecore aesthetic plays a role in inspiring more women to embrace the “tradwife” lifestyle?

    Thank you again—I really enjoyed reading your work!

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Ava,
      Thank you for reading. I can definitely see a potential parallel between Tradwife ideology and historic indoctrination rhetoric such as the phrase “Children, Kitchen, Church”. They both similarly encourage motherhood and homemaking as a woman’s ‘true’ calling/purpose in life… definitely a worrying similarity you have picked up on!

      Like you I can see the appeal of Hannah Neeleman of Ballerina Farm’s curated online content: she presents a very idyllic domestic lifestyle to viewers, with a beautiful home and family. The polished aesthetic of Tradwife influencers is an extremely important component part of their success – content must be aspirational to inspire people, of course. As you mention, fashion plays a part in this influence also. I do think that capitalising on the popularity of the Cottagecore aesthetic has allowed the Tradwife movement to garner even more popularity. You will notice in many of Neeleman’s cooking videos she is wearing a dainty blouse, floral dress or frilled apron of some description (very Cottagecore).

      This is a really interesting read if you want a different perspective on Ballerina Farm’s seemingly perfect lifestyle: https://archive.is/05HbB
      It raises some really great points on the exhaustion that can come with the labour of being the perfect wife and mother.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment on my paper!

  4. SammLaw Avatar

    Hello Lily,

    Your paper caught my attention as when researching my own paper “OnlyFans Being a Viable Career Options for Young Women” something that came up a lot was traditional gender roles and for my topic the difference between “feminist empowerment agency and reclaim their bodies” vs objectifying trends that are reinforcing the patriarchy.

    Back to your paper, do you think that a potential issue with choice feminism is less the choice but that the algorithm will likely then show people the same content which will later put them in a digital bubble which is reinforcing this choice / making it seem more common than it might actually be. Whereas, the beauty of choice feminism was that everyone had the choice to be different and then seeing the differences would be a more rounding experience?

    I really enjoyed your paper, thanks for sharing your views.

    Here is a link to my paper if you are interested:
    https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2025/onsc/5936/onlyfans-being-a-viable-career-options-for-young-women/#comment-4838

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi SammLaw,
      Thank you for your comment. I agree it can be difficult to distinguish the difference between feminist reclamation of agency vs. reinforcing patriarchal trends and traditions. There is the argument that because women are ‘choosing’ to embrace domestic servitude this time around, that automatically makes it feminist and empowering. As you can probably tell from reading, I do not wholly agree with this sentiment. Many women do find total fulfilment from motherhood and homemaking and that choice should be respected, however – as you mention – potential issues arise when algorithms promote a certain type of content over and over. It diminishes choice and autonomy when one lifestyle is promoted as correct and right above others; media has the power to shape the way we think and correspondingly make decisions.

      Thanks again for reading, I’m very interested to look into your paper!

  5. Rylie Avatar

    This was a very powerful and interesting read that was very effective at breaking down and explaining all the points brought up. I thought it was very interesting to learn how social media and other media sources are influencing young women. Could you clarify how digital media platforms are crucial to the tradwife movement?

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Rylie,
      Thanks for your comment. Social media is an integral tool to the online Tradwife persona for a variety of reasons. A prominent one is the massive visibility and scalability afforded. Being able to reach an audience of potentially millions of overworked, exhausted women searching for an escape is crucial as this audience can then be radicalised. Hashtags like #Trad can easily be found and searched on these platforms, expanding reach and influence further. The curated nature of platforms like Instagram and even blogs is also very important as aspirational content sells! When influencers such as Hannah Neeleman of Ballerina Farm post their idyllic ‘cook with me’ videos, they are very often selling a product behind it. I hope this clarifies the importance of these platforms to aiding right-leaning movements such as #Tradwives, thanks for reading!

  6. John Lim Avatar

    Hi Lily,

    Really enjoyed reading your piece, your choice in words and the way you craft sentences really drew me in the subject matter and it was very entertaining to read. For example: “Could floral patterns and flowing frocks really be a façade for something more sinister?” great touch! Your argument flowed really well too and the concepts were well explained, I was a bit skeptical or maybe confused at first as how tradwife movements reclaimed by women was also not of their own choice when they were the ones that chose to engage in that culture and I do agree that social media algorithms and influencers do actually influence those choices as well.

    Do you think that this also applies to wider society? Do you think that for example in politics the more right-wing agendas are covered whether in a positive or negative light can influence people or convince people that this might be the right way to view the world since it is widely shared and talked about? To really focus it down, do you think Trump’s utilization of social media to spread his sexist, racist and hateful rhetorics let people think that his views might be right? Really interested in your thoughts.

    This question has been influenced by my own research on how politicians and movements use social media to influence change. Would love to hear your thoughts. Here is the link if you are interested. Thanks again!

    https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2025/onsc/5420/social-media-affordances-donald-trump-politics-and-social-change/

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi John,
      Thank you for taking the time to ready my paper, I appreciate your kind words! I can understand why you would be skeptical as to how trends like the Tradwife movement inhibit personal choice; sometimes the messaging can be very difficult to pick up on.

      I agree this can be applied to a wider political context. Right-wing ideology is spread on YouTube, Instragram TikTok etc. in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways. An example that connects to both of our papers would be Cole Labrant’s “praying over Trump” Instagram post in late 2024:
      https://www.instagram.com/cole.labrant/p/DB7AuQGS0kt/?hl=en
      This sort of influencer endorsement can definitely mould audiences to adopt particular views, and I think it’s evident that Trump utilised social media heavily in his recent campaign.

      Thanks again for reading, I’ll be sure to have a look at your paper.

  7. Jiahao Avatar

    Hi Lily,

    Very interesting paper, it really gave me a whole new perspective on how social media trends like cottagecore and the clean girl makeup aesthetic are not just harmless aesthetics, but can actually be seen as content that reinforces traditional roles and conservative values on social media. It is interesting but also worrying to see how easily these trends can influence especially young women without them even realising what is really going on. Do you think that people who engage in these trends are actually aware of the underlying ideologies?

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Jiahao,
      Thank you for comment. I agree it is quite alarming how harmless trends can be co-opted for political gain, it truly makes you reconsider the content you’re watching on these platforms. Whether or not people are aware of the underlying ideologies behind these trends will differ from user to user, but I believe for certain movements it is more evident. For instance, I would argue that most outspoken #Tradwife influencers are aware they’re pedalling alt-right rhetoric. In the case of more aesthetic-focused trends like Cottagecore and clean girl makeup, this awareness is likely to be lessened as the connection to conservative values is also signicantly less overt.

      Thanks again for taking the time to read!

  8. kianapanpone Avatar

    This was a strong read on how digital aesthetics can mask deeper conservative ideologies. Additionally, I have also noticed how trends like the ‘clean girl’ have promoted a very narrow beauty standard, sometimes even under the guise of body positivity (as it ties in with the ‘Pilates princess’ lifestyle). However, they feel curated and exclusive rather than empowering and inclusive. It is wild to me how we’ve swung from bold self expression of 2016-2020 where bright colours, creative cut-creases, and VERY LOUD individuality.

    Do you think that there is still space for authentic self-expression in these trends, or are they too tied up in ideological pressures.

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Kianapanpone,
      You bring up a really great point regarding individuality and self-expression, I actually would’ve loved to dive a bit deeper into this in my paper! Some articles I read call this response ‘Post-Girlboss feminism’: the dramatic pendulum swing away from celebrating female empowerment and professional ambition that was massively popular in the 2010s, where ‘Girlbosses’ seemed to be taking over the world one colourful blazer at a time. I agree we’ve leant away celebrating loud and bold forms of expression in favour of more understated and simple ones. Makeup is a great example as you mention. Gone are the days of neon cut-creases and rainbow matte lipsticks; RUN DON’T WALK to Sephora for those subtle bronzing drops and those dewy skin balms.

      If you’re interested in this topic I would really recommend checking out the relevant timestamps in these videos:

      “Republican Makeup, Old Money, & The Scam of TikTok Lifestyle Content (a personal essay)”
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PXOr91nxIi8&t=1200s
      (timestamp 15.08)

      “How conservatism infiltrated pop culture”
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pKFLOctEUM
      (timestamp 31.50)

      Both creators do a really great job at exploring how, in a very interesting switch-up, neo-liberal ideals of the 2010s have been thrown out for more conservative ones. In terms of your question, I do think that some of the trends I have discussed leave room for authentic expression. For instance, engaging with aesthetics like #Cottagecore can be a really great way for women to explore their fashion tastes and express their femininity. I guess where I take issue with some of these trends is when that emphasis on conformity comes into play.

      Take Stockholm style or Clean Girl makeup, where an almost uniform-like quality can be observed. When we all start to shop from the same places, wear the same makeup, and follow the same lifestyle trends, where does that individuality go? And is social media the cause for it’s abscence, or is it merely a classic pendulum swing response to the over-saturated Girlboss feminism of the late 2010s? These are all questions that come into my mind, your comment is a thought-provoking one for sure!

      Thanks for reading.

      1. kianapanpone Avatar

        Hey Lily, thank you so much for your response and recommendation!

        To add onto your comment about the shift in makeup as well, I mainly recognised it in my own personal life when I seen old pictures of myself with old makeup styles from watching YouTube tutorials – and now I am one of the ones who are now using the tinted sunscreen and subtle blush drops oh my goodness!

        Like your last point, it left me thinking about how I don’t even think I have a personal style, as I also grew up with the rise of social media a lot of my personal taste were heavily influenced by trends and what I am exposed to. Now I am thinking about how to go about it? How can only find personal taste and individuality after years of exposure to trends and ‘the current norm’.

        I have actually watched the first one by Jordan when I had been going through a marathon of watching Mina Le’s video essays (they are my guilty pleasures and help me keep up to date with current trends without having to be too involved in social media doom scrolling.) I definitely enjoyed that one

        I will definitely check out the second recommendation!

        1. Lily Avatar

          Hey Kiana,
          I agree it’s so difficult attempting to find your own personal style when we’re bombarded by these popularised aesthetics from every angle! I myself fell victim to the ‘Pilates Princess’ trend… It was only after I spent 150 dollars on a Lululemon jacket that I realised I was not really following my personal style. I think it’s interesting to examine the idea of ‘micro trends’ in this context as well. For instance, will Cottagecore meet the same fate as cow print and those dreaded mesh angel shirts?
          https://www.amazon.com.au/Womens-Sleeve-Through-Cherub-Summer/dp/B08SLC89JR

          It’s quite difficult to develop your own personal taste and individuality with these fast-paced trends saturating the market so heavily. That’s great you have seen Jordan’s video as well; I find her and Mina Le’s fashion and beauty content is always so interesting/relevant. I think watching creators like this who dive a bit deeper into the underlying ideology behind trends is a solid place to start. And they make for a great break from doomscrolling too, of course 🙂

  9. Kylie Avatar

    Hi Lily

    I found this an interesting and thought-provoking read. I was wondering if you feel the same is true for men and social media platforms – do you believe they are also being influenced by content that depicts more traditional gender roles?

  10. Cindy Ma Avatar

    Hi Lily, I love your background photo—it really matches your title and the content of your paper. You did a great job unpacking how aesthetic trends like Tradwives, Cottagecore, and the clean girl makeup look, while seemingly harmless, can actually perpetuate deeper ideologies tied to patriarchy and purity culture. I also appreciated how you supported each trend with specific examples, like TikTok and YouTube videos—that made your analysis clear and impactful. Your section on the Tradwife movement and family vlogging was especially strong, clearly showing how digital media is used to normalize conservative gender roles. Great work overall! If you have time, feel free to visit the link and check out my paper too https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2025/onsc/5187/gig-workers-utilise-reddit-and-x-to-advocate-for-better-working-conditions-and-social-change/

  11. Kaiya Ryujin Avatar

    Hi Lily,

    I loved your paper. Your discussion offers a unique perspective on how seemingly harmless trends can align with broader political ideologies. I was particularly struck by your analysis of the clean girl makeup trend and its ties to purity culture. The racial undertones you highlighted added an important layer of depth to the conversation showing how these trends are not only conservative but also exclusionary.

    I would love to hear your opinion on how you think these trends, such as the clean girl makeup aesthetic, might evolve as younger generations become more aware of the racial and social implications of purity culture?

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Kaiya,
      Thanks for taking the time to read my paper! I’m glad I was able to highlight how subtly exclusionary some of these trends can be. In terms of the evolution of these trends, I think it’s difficult to predict how they will adapt over time. Can we expect to see a full pendulum-swing back into the bold and colourful makeup looks of the late 2010s in response to these ultra-minimal ‘clean’ styles? Personally, I could see younger users who are gaining awareness reverting back to more ‘alt’ makeup styles in an attempt to subvert what’s popular. Another commenter mentioned ‘messy’/’dirty’ makeup looks, an example of which I’ll link below:
      https://www.tiktok.com/@damnastyawashere/video/7389331333945806088?q=dirty%20makeup&t=1746703143925

      That being said, I could also see trends leaning even harder into ‘clean’ image with lifestyle trends like Pilates, yoga and skincare continue to gain popularity. I’d love to know your thoughts on how you can see these aesthetics evolving!

  12. Cindy Ma Avatar

    Hi Lily, I love your background photo—it really matches your title and the content of your paper. You did a great job unpacking how aesthetic trends like Tradwives, Cottagecore, and the clean girl makeup look, while seemingly harmless, can actually perpetuate deeper ideologies tied to patriarchy and purity culture. I also appreciated how you supported each trend with specific examples, like TikTok and YouTube videos—that made your analysis clear and impactful. Your section on the Tradwife movement and family vlogging was especially strong, clearly showing how digital media is used to normalize conservative gender roles. Great work overall! If you have time, feel free to visit the link and check out my paper too https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2025/onsc/5187/gig-workers-utilise-reddit-and-x-to-advocate-for-better-working-conditions-and-social-change/

    1. Hannah K Avatar

      Hello Lily,
      I really enjoyed the way this paper went through different trends on social media that could seem harmlessly independent, but really all played a part in spreading this one view point. I also really liked the way you talked about choice and if we are even making our own decisions or are we just heavily influenced. And I agree. We are influenced. From my own experience I’ve had moments of reflection, and I ask myself, why do I think this way? Do I even think this way when I have all the facts? With more papers like these, and more people encouraging indivial thoughts, I’d hope to think that more people are now doing their own research into topics and ideals before mindlessly comforming. Research like this to me is a step closer to a better world, thank you for your contribution.

    2. Lily Avatar

      Hey Cindy,
      Thank you for your kind words. I was really trying to channel the soft, feminine aesthetic these trends work so hard to promote with my background photo – glad to hear it fits. If you’re interested in hearing another take on the #Tradwife movement I really recommend this Youtube video, super interesting and well-researched:
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JXRhm6te-Fg

      I’ll be sure to take a look at your paper; you’ve picked two platforms that I find quite divisive/controversial at times so I’m looking forward to reading! Thanks again for taking the time to comment.

  13. Rebecca Tracey Avatar

    Hi Lily,
    I loved your paper! The Tradwife movement has been on my radar for a while and I love the way you’ve laid everything out there in connecting religious and conservative ideology with the movement in a really concise way. My question is if you’ve found other connections within your research outside of the religious/conservative pipeline, and if you too have seen connections between neoliberal “girl-boss” content creators moving towards a Tradwife aesthetic? It really makes me wonder if these women believe in the lifestyle they’re promoting or if it’s all just a grift to get those discount codes.

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Tracey,
      Thanks for taking the time to comment – I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there with your ‘discount code grifter’ comment (lol). The question of authenticity is a really interesting one to raise; how many of these women genuinely believe in the ideals they’re pedalling?

      One example I have noticed of content creators moving towards the #Trad aesthetic in manner that seems more performative than genuine for me would be Claudia Walsh. Since the spike in popularity of Cottagecore, Clean girl and Tradwife aesthetics I have noticed her content pivot sharply. She posts a lot of floral milkmaid dresses and wedding/home-based content, but if you continue to scroll down her Instagram, you’ll quickly notice she used to post a lot more typical ‘baddie’ influencer content:
      https://www.instagram.com/p/DI7lQz7M4NK/?img_index=1

      Of course influencers are only human and they play around with their aesthetics the same way we do, but it’s interesting that she has chosen this particular style to fit her new image. And even more interesting that there’s a host of discount codes and Amazon storefront links alongside it…

      If there’s any examples that you have in mind I’d love to hear about them, too. Thank you for reading!

  14. Charlotte Avatar

    Hey Lily,
    Thank you so much for sharing your paper! It was an incredible read and really encouraged reflection on the media which I am constantly consuming! I thought it was really interesting as well how you recognised the way in which women of colour are frequently left out of these trends, and really emphasised the power of using an intersectional lens!

    1. Lily Avatar

      Hi Charlotte,
      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment! I’m glad you felt encouraged to reflect upon your own consumption of trends, as that was really my primary goal when writing this paper. I agree that intersectionality is super important to consider, and in retrospect I wish I had gone a little more in-depth on a wider variety of perspectives in my own discussion.

      When researching on the ‘clean girl’ makeup trend in particular, I was quite shocked to find how pervasive the exclusionary and racist signalling of these trends is. It made me reflect on my paper as a whole and evaluate how I had similarly neglected these perspectives. I really enjoyed this take from Alexandra Thomas:
      https://farragomagazine.com/article/farrago/Aesthetics-and-Racism-A-Deep-Dive-Into-Naarmcore-and-CleanGirl/

      Thanks again for your insight 🙂

  15. Karen Avatar

    Hi Lily

    Firstly, thanks for sharing your paper. I found it well-researched and thought-provoking as well as very accessible for the lay person. As a bit of an aside…I think the latter is very important when wishing to inform your peers and the general populous about a subject about which they may not be across, or considered subject matter experts :).

    I was very interested to read that young girls are the highest consumers of YouTube. With this in mind, along with the knowledge of the mechanics of social media algorithms, what are your thoughts on Australia’s Online Safety Amendment (Social Media Minimum Age) Bill 2024?