Social media platforms are negatively affecting the face-to-face social skills of teenagers in the real world which is causing social changes.

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Abstract-

Purpose: The relationship between teenagers and social media use is very popular. However, this study is designed to show that social media affects teenagers’ social behaviour and relationships in the real world due to social media affecting their social communication skills in the real world.

Approach: A total of eight peered review research from year 2020 to 2023 was used to explain the main argument and to find the results.

Findings: Teenagers who uses social media on a regular basis to socialise with peers will experience depression, anxiety, ADHD, self-isolation and they will be unable to engage into meaningful real-life conversations. Thus, affecting their face-to-face social skills and relationships.

Keywords: social media, social skills, teenagers, face-to-face, communication, conversations.  

 

 

Introduction:

Social connections are of extreme importance in influencing someone’s mental and physical health (Huang et al., 2022). As teenagers are growing up, communicating and socialising with their peers and friends are of great importance. During this period teenagers feel the urge to express themselves and manifest their presence in the society. As stated by Huang et al. (2022), as they approach puberty, children increasingly gain their freedom and make an effort to interact with more diverse members of society. However, due to the emergence of the internet and digital age, young people have shifted their need to express themselves from the real world to social media platforms. As argued by Huang et al. (2022), with the quick development of the internet world, adolescents’ social connections are heavily impacted by the Internet or other online platforms. Social change is the changing of a society’s social structure, which may involve adjustments to social institutions, social norms, or social connections. As a result, since teenagers are a big part of the society; social media affecting their social relationship and social behaviours in the real world will definitely cause social changers within their group in the society. Social media is an engaging computer-mediated technologies that enable the production or sharing of content through online networks and communities, including information, ideas, professions, interests, and other kinds of expression (Kitiş et al., 2022). For this study, researchers are mainly based on social media platforms with a texting and calling ability such as Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp. The use of social media is adversely affecting the development of teenagers’ social skills in the real world. This is because, instead of developing and understanding social skills in the real world teenagers prefer spending more time socialising behind a screen, socialising online make them feel socially isolated and finally teenagers who heavily use social media to communicate experience a reduction in their attention span.

 

Spending more time to communicate on social media instead on face-to-face interactions is preventing teenagers from developing and understanding interpersonal skills in the real world. It is no secret that most teenagers nowadays are on some kind of social media platform. For example, according to Towner et al. (2022), in the UK, 83% of 12- to 15-year-olds have a smartphone, and between 2015 and 2019, over 70% had an online presence. However, the issue does not lie on having an online presence but instead is about replacing it with real life meaningful conversations. Teenagers’ physical and emotional health are significantly influenced by their interpersonal relationships (Yang et al., 2022). Moreover, to build an interpersonal relationship, teenagers have to go through self-disclosure. Relationships depend on ‘self-disclosure,’ which is when someone shares their personal information with another person (Towner et al., 2022). Behind a screen, it is very hard to emotionally connect with someone and to express self-disclosure. This is because online interactions make it hard for two or more individuals to capture each other’s emotions; that they are trying to convey. As argued by Towner et al. (2022), because computer-mediated communication lacks nonverbal clues, there may be less self-disclosure. When teenagers are exchanging messaging texts or comments on each other’s posts, they have no real clue about the emotional impact of their words, and they are also unaware of the expressions of their friends in the moment, as there is no involvement of voice tone and sight in real time. As stated by Lieberman and Schroeder (2020) engaging via text online can lessen people’s comprehension of others’ views and emotions compared to communicating through speech offline, thus leading to potential misunderstandings. Another point by Lieberman and Schroeder (2020) is that, there is a decrease in perceptions of social bonding as a result of losing access to vocal active listening skills. Therefore, it can be said that vocal and visual image, which are both important factors for real life communication are lacking when using texting as a mean to communicate. Due to the absence of these factors’ teenagers are missing out and not developing essential socialising skills. As social media allows teenagers to make friends online and chat online, their need to express themselves and communicate with other teenagers is fulfilled. Thus, they feel no need to interact with the real world. As stated by Choi and Sung, (2018, as cited in Al-Samarraie et al., 2022), users who are primarily teenagers and young adults might receive immediate feedback and affirmation from other social group members, which could give them the consolation and support necessary to boost their sense of contentment, happiness, and self-worth.

 

Using social networking platforms as a mean to communicate reduce teenagers’ real life social skills as they become more socially isolated. Even though social media allows its users to connect with an unlimited amount of individual worldwide, it can still cause the feeling of loneliness which decreases the motivation for teenagers step out from their screens and socialise in the real world. A survey of Facebook users showed that the number of important contact people reported is essentially same from before social media’s emergence; five faithful friends, fifteen close friends, fifty regular friends, and one hundred and fifty acquaintances (Lieberman & Schroeder, 2020). As a result, this shows that even if teenagers have a lot of friends or followers on social platforms, this does not mean that they are socialising with all of them and certainly not in a meaningful way. Several studies have revealed that online communication lacks the complexity and richness of face-to-face interpersonal interaction by its very nature, which leads to less fulfilling social interactions and, ultimately, increased risks for loneliness (Smith, Leonis, & Anandavalli, 2021).  Therefore, due to the lack of meaningful and deep conversations, teenagers cannot open themselves and express their emotions, which lead them to feel lonely and depressed. According to Weiss (1973, as cited in Smith, Leonis, & Anandavalli, 2021), loneliness is a result of unfulfilled demands for attachment, social isolation, nurturing, a sense of trusted alliance, and support during trying times. There is a substantial and expanding body of evidence linking loneliness to personality traits including external locus of control, shyness, low self-esteem, and feelings of isolation, as well as to unfavourable emotional states like depression and life discontent (Smith, Leonis, & Anandavalli, 2021). Therefore, when teenagers feel lonely and depressed, this leads to social isolation and them being introverts which in return affects their social skills in the real world.

 

Teenagers who have being using social media for a long period of time to communicate are experiencing a decrease in their attention span which is preventing them to develop their interpersonal skills in the real life. Nowadays, social media is part of teenagers social live as they use them to socialise with their peers. However, spending too much time engaging with these platforms definitely come with adverse effects. For example, a sizable longitudinal research of teenagers without discernible ADHD symptoms discovered that higher participation in social or non-social digital media activities was linked to more self-reported ADHD signs two years later (Dekkers & van Hoorn, 2022). Therefore, this confirms the fact that teenagers who uses social media for a long period of time can develop ADHD and there is no need to mention that teenagers are the ones who use social networking sites the most. ADHD which means Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder can be defined as an extremely common psychiatric state which is identified by hyperactivity, inattention and impulsivity (Dekkers & van Hoorn, 2022). Moreover, teenagers don’t develop ADHD by only surfing on internet platforms, but they also experience these symptoms when they are used to instant messaging. As stated by Dekkers and van Hoorn (2022), a study that looked at teenagers at risk for psychopathology found a connection between self-reported ADHD and the daily amount of text messages exchanged and the daily reported time spent on digital media. Instant texting allows teenagers to communicate quicker compared to a face-to-face conversation. As a result, teenagers’ relationships and real-life social skills suffer because they cannot engage fully in face-to-face meaningful conversation. As argued by Dekkers and van Hoorn (2022), ADHD is frequently linked to a variety of social issues, such as issues managing personal friendships and peer relationships. This means that it is harder for these teenagers to develop their interpersonal skills. Dekkers and van Hoorn (2022) mentioned that, teenagers with ADHD exhibit a variety of social challenges that could lead to a difficulty with these shifting social dynamics; as a result, they need more sophisticated social skills to function effectively in these situations. Moreover, since teenagers with ADHD signs cannot socialise in real life situations, they prefer to use social media sites as a mean to communicate. For example, findings from studies on young females showed those with ADHD preferred online communication over face-to-face interaction (Dekkers & van Hoorn, 2022).

 

Conclusion

Teenagers are early consumers of social media, but there is little knowledge about whether online interactions can meet their social needs (Towner et al., 2022). The results have shown that teenagers’ face to face social skills do suffer but only if they are too dependent on social media as a mean of communication. Social media prevent them from developing interpersonal skills as they cannot express their emotions and engage in meaningful conversations, to create new or maintain relationships. This is because, through texting teenagers are not aware of voice tone, body language and facial expressions, which are very important factors when it comes to understanding and engaging with another individual. Another negative effect of social media on teenagers’ socialisation skills is that they affect their mental wellbeing, which in return make them socially isolated. The reason behind this, is that social media make teenagers feel lonely and depressed as they cannot fulfil their need to participate in a real and deep conversation. The final point is that teenagers attention span are affected due to heavy social media usage. This is due to the fact that teenagers who use social media to communicate with their peers have shown symptoms of ADHD. As a result, they prefer instant messaging instead of doing the effort of getting involved in deep conversations. All the above points, show that online networks are causing side effects on teenagers which is reducing their ability to communicate with the society and real world, which is causing social changes within the teenage group of the society, like changes in teenager’s social behaviours and social relationships.

 

References

 

Al-Samarraie, H., Bello, K. A., Alzahrani, A. I., Smith, A. P., & Emele, C. (2022). Young users’ social media addiction: causes, consequences and preventions. Information Technology and People, 35(7), 2314–2343. https://doi.org/10.1108/ITP-11-2020-0753

 

 

Dekkers, T. J., & van Hoorn, J. (2022). Understanding Problematic Social Media Use in Adolescents with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD): A Narrative Review and Clinical Recommendations. In Brain Sciences (Vol. 12, Issue 12). MDPI. https://doi.org/10.3390/brainsci12121625

 

 

Huang, S., Lai, X., Zhao, X., Dai, X., Yao, Y., Zhang, C., & Wang, Y. (2022). Beyond Screen Time: Exploring the Associations between Types of Smartphone Use Content and Adolescents’ Social Relationships. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 19(15). https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph19158940

 

 

Kitiş, Y., Dağci, B., Köse, N., & Geniş, Ç. (2022). The use of social media among high school students and its relationship with the perception of loneliness: A pilot study. Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing, 35(4), 341–348. https://doi.org/10.1111/jcap.12388

 

 

Lieberman, A., & Schroeder, J. (2020). Two social lives: How differences between online and offline interaction influence social outcomes. In Current Opinion in Psychology (Vol. 31, pp. 16–21). Elsevier B.V. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2019.06.022

 

 

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17 responses to “Social media platforms are negatively affecting the face-to-face social skills of teenagers in the real world which is causing social changes.”

  1. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
    Stephen.B.Bain

    Hi Khavish,

    Is ADHD caused by social media and/or texting?

    Steve

    1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      Hi Steve,

      What I was trying to say is that research have shown that teenagers who heavily use social media to text have demonstrate symptoms of ADHD. By using the texting features of social media platforms as an only mean to communicate with their peers is causing ADHD.

      Khavish.

      1. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
        Stephen.B.Bain

        Hi Khavish,

        I can see the connection between social media use and ‘looking like ADHD’ … is it the same as the genetic trait/heredity ADHD?

        Steve

        1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
          Khavish.Mohabeer

          Hi Steve,

          No, it is not the same as the genetic trait/heredity ADHD. It is true that some people might acquire ADHD from their bloodline. However, in this context I am talking about how everyone who uses social media excessively, as a mean of communication are at risk of facing ADHD. In this case it is more like something you get from overusing social media to communicate and less real-life interactions.

          Khavish.

  2. Chloe.Kingma Avatar
    Chloe.Kingma

    Hi Khavish,

    Definitely an interesting read as well as something that I’ve observed in my day-to-day life. I always wonder whether social media is the cause of a lack of interpersonal skills or whether it is a crutch to those who already lack them. Do you think social media causes this or do people who tend to be shy in public and struggle with face-to-face communication flock towards social media as a means to get social fulfilment without having to step out of their comfort zone.

    Would love to hear your thoughts on this!
    Chloé

    1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      Hi Chloé,

      Thanks for the comment, I really appreciate the way you thought about this issue. I would say that social media is a big cause of this issue. Social media itself gets you in a comfort bubble where even extroverts may find themselves get caught in. As humans our habits are formed based on our daily and consistent activities. As social media is addictive by nature (most of us uses it everyday) and communicating through them are easier, I think that due to these factors even an extrovert may find comfort in communicating online. Getting comfortable in hiding behind a screen to communicate automatically affects the confidence and face to face social skills of a person.

      I hope that I have answered your question and I would like to hear more from you,

      Khavish.

  3. Erwan.Rene Avatar
    Erwan.Rene

    Hello Khavish,

    In your work it is mentioned “Spending more time to communicate on social media instead on face-to-face interactions is preventing teenagers from developing and understanding interpersonal skills in the real world.”

    I think that a lot of people make use of their social accounts to communicate with other users, share and consume contents available online. As you said they send text messages but also do audio/video calls where they can talk with other people. There is still communication and interaction happening and information is being shared therefore this may be very beneficial for users to have a wider range of information that could help them develop a lot of skills that can be useful in their daily life offline.

    So, my question is why you think that the skills learnt online is not as much important as the skills that they may learn in their daily life knowing that there are a lot of contents that are published online for mostly everything that an individual should know in life?

    Thank you,
    Erwan

    1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      Thanks for your comment Erwan, I really appreciated the way you questioned the argument.

      I agree with you on the fact that social media allows users to interact and communicate through features such as video calling and audio calling and also the fact that users are developing a lot of skills online.

      However, I never mentioned that the skills learnt online is not as much important as the skills that they may learn in their daily life. Through the various opportunities online people can definitely construct and build their skills. What I wanted to highlight was the effect of hiding behind a screen to communicate on a daily basics. Don’t get me wrong, communicating on social media platforms is not bad but if it is not balanced with real life interactions then it may cause issues. By doing video calls even if you can see your peers, it is still hard to understand and develop certain social skills that you may gain from face-to-face interactions, for example, too much video calling and lack of face-to-face interaction in the real world may prevent teenagers from understanding proper body language. Pulse it is hard to maintain a relationship and build a connection online especially for teenagers as they need to understand emotions that a face-to-face interaction can provide, and they also need to understand how to maintain connections and relationships.

      With the web 2.0 I know that it is easier for us to communicate but still for their mental health, to help build their confidence and to understand how people communicate, I think that teenagers still need to keep a balance between communicating online and face to face interaction.

      I hope that I have answered your question and I hope to hear from you soon,
      Khavish.

  4. Chandishi.Seedoyal Avatar
    Chandishi.Seedoyal

    Hi Khavish,

    I completely agree with your paper supporting every argument that you mentioned above. We can consider that Covid-19 was an accelerator to this new phenomenon, where people were forced to engage online despite the knowing the negative outcomes of it, we had no other alternative to turn to virtual meet ups and engagement.

    How far do you agree that no proper upbringing and restrictions were unforced at academic teaching level so to tackle this digital era complexity?

    We are bound to interact and engage more and more on digital platform which decreases the chance of physical meet up as mentioned. We are shifting in a world where we would be surrounded by digitization from our wake-up stage to sleep stage. How in the future are we going to tackle this upcoming issue, with the ADHD symptoms that seems to be occurring frequently especially among youngsters?

    Kind Regards,
    C.Seedoyal

    1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      Thanks, Chandishi for this interesting perspective.

      I completely agree with you, as we are living in a continuously evolving digital age, educational institutions must have introduced to young people the issues of using too much social media as it is part of their daily life. As because of their lack of understanding and knowledge about how to use and control this tool properly, teenagers are allowing social media to control them. Most teenagers get influenced by the addictive nature of social media and as a result, without them knowing, they are now addicted to it.

      To tackle this issue, I personally think that community meet and greets must be organised where the young generation can disconnect with their daily social media consumption and interact with the real world; where they can learn about the power of face-to-face interaction and community.

      Recently, I have notice more and more social media influencers doing social media 30-days detox challenges. I think that’s also a great way for people to realise how it feels to disconnect from the online life and to live in the real life. However, by no mean I am stating that social media should not be used completely; I think that this is a great 30-day challenge that people can try, so as they can step back to reflect better on their social media use and think about how they can balance it with their daily life.

      I really enjoyed this conversation and I hope to hear from you soon,

      Khavish.

  5. Koveela.Soobrayen Avatar
    Koveela.Soobrayen

    Hi Khavish,

    Your paper is very insightful! According to you, what could be done to increase attention span and improve interpersonal skills of those affected with ADHD? When you say that “teenagers don’t develop ADHD by only surfing on internet platforms, but they also experience these symptoms when they are used to instant messaging”, how does other factors such as text-messaging also hinder face-to-face interaction?

    1. Koveela.Soobrayen Avatar
      Koveela.Soobrayen

      would love to hear your thoughts!

      Kind regards,

      Koveela

    2. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      I personally believe that anything can be corrected through consistent practise, if excessive communication on social media got someone to have ADHD maybe by practising to reduce their addiction by trying to do the opposite of what they used to do might help. Which may be engage more into real life activities and really try and practise to engage in meaningful long conversations.

      Been addicted to online communication as a whole just because it is easier and quicker to use hinder face-to-face interaction. People get addicted to online communications because of these factors as they no longer need to do the effort to go in real life and meet someone to have a meaningful conversation.

      I hope that I have answered your questions and I hope to hear from you soon,
      Khavish.

      1. Koveela.Soobrayen Avatar
        Koveela.Soobrayen

        Hi Khavish,

        Thanks for replying. I agree with your opinion with a certain extent when you mentioned about altering their habits into engaging in long conversations. But what if it is harder for teenagers to find a community which aligns to them in reality (e.g, introverts’ difficulty in engaging with deep talks because of social anxiety)? What activities do you think could be put in place to encourage people to tone down their negative social media usage and interact more with people face-to-face because it is easy to say that they should reduce their negative habits but is it really that easy? What do you suggest should be done to ease the transition from problematic social media use to in-person communication?

        True, face-to-face interactions are much easier than in-person interactions. But I think that it is less meaningful if people use text messages to interact because they don’t get responses instantly and they cannot clear misunderstandings on spot which leaves room for speculations. What do you think should be done to clear these ambiguities?

        Looking forward to hearing from you.

        Koveela

        1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
          Khavish.Mohabeer

          Hi Koveela, thanks for showing interest in the conversation and your questions are actually very interesting.

          In case someone has social anxiety, and it is hard for them to integrate a community, the best thing to do is to start step by step.
          It is hard for an introvert to go outside and try to meet new friends and try to build new relationships. However, they must start somewhere, maybe instead of using online communication, they can start to engage in deep conversations with their own family members or people they feel comfortable with. Therefore, breaking that bad habit of constantly hiding behind their screens to interact and also at the same time improve their face-to-face communication skills.

          Again, it is hard to turn down the negative habits but by trying to be part of any community of their interest or even doing any activity of their interest that does not require them checking their phone might help. For example, joining a sport community, just to zone out from their online life even if it is for only one hour or more. By joining a club of their interest teenagers might also find it easier to discuss issues around their interest and even make new connections.

          To better tackle this issue maybe educational institutions must start implementing talks about the issues of using social media and about the advantages of connecting with friends face to face. Moreover, influencers are promoting the 30 days social media detox trend, that maybe helpful for the youth to try as they may realise how much they are actually losing by staying in their online environment for too much time.

          For the last part to clear any misunderstanding while messaging, teenagers can shift to alternative means such as voice call and video call. This might prevent misunderstanding, but it still won’t allow them to properly develop and identify communication skills such as understanding proper body language.

          I hope that I have answered your questions and I am looking forward for your thoughts on this,
          Khavish.

  6. Micca Zhang Avatar
    Micca Zhang

    Hi Khavish,

    I agree with you that when teenagers overuse social media to communicate, it does affect their ability to communicate in real life.

    But in today’s society where smartphones and social media are everywhere, how can teenagers use social media while still balancing their communication skills in real life?

    And do you think it is necessary to appropriately reduce the frequency of smartphone use among teenagers?

    Looking forward to your respond
    Micca

    1. Khavish.Mohabeer Avatar
      Khavish.Mohabeer

      Hi Micca,

      Even if we are living in a technological era, we still need to learn how to control our urge to spend most of our time on these technologies. I know that it is really hard to do so especially for teenagers, however maybe by learning about the effects that these technological tools are causing to themselves might help them to consider keeping themselves accountable by being more mindful over their screentime and intentionally try to limit social media use while trying to interact more with the real world.

      Yes, it is necessary to reduce the frequency of smartphone use among teenagers. This is because, as teenagers are still in their phase of growing, they find the need to express themselves and as their needs are fulfilled online, they have no need to act in real life and engage in society. As a result, this can affect their mental health and confidence while growing up. However, it should not be limited completely as on the contrary social media have a lot to offer to the young generation. As a result, they should be taught how to balance and use social media for their own well being.

      I hope that I have answered your questions and I hope to hear from you soon,

      Khavish.

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