Online vs Offline: The Effect of Tinder on Self-Presentation

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Abstract 

The ability for users to present themselves online is becoming increasingly easier. This, combined with the digitisation of dating has allowed online dating application users to create an online identity that may not be authentic to who they are offline. This conference paper explores the way in which the features of online dating platform, Tinder, allows a user to construct an online identity that differs from their offline identity. The features of Tinder, that this essay presents as allowing an unauthentic self to be created, include the photos and bio text that are present on the user profile, as well as the messaging capabilities that are given to users post-match.  

 

Introduction 

Everyone has an identity. Social networking sites and online spaces have become an increasingly popular way for people to express this self-identity. Increased online self-presentation combined with the digitisation of dating, has encouraged the emergence of online dating applications, designed to be solely for the use of finding potential romantic partners. When presented with the opportunity to create a profile, that strangers will judge in order to make a quick decision of whether to connect or not, dating app users utilise features of the platform to create an identity that they feel will allow for a better opportunity of connecting with or attracting a greater number of potential partners. This essay will argue that the features of online dating applications, such as Tinder, allow users to create an online identity that differs from that of their offline self in terms of authenticity. In order to understand the use of features, it is essential to know how Tinder works. Users review other user profiles in a gamified way of swiping left or right, to either reject or ‘match’ with them (Newett et al., 2018). If both users swipe right to facilitate a match when viewing each other’s profiles, then they will be given access to messaging capabilities to converse with each other over the platform (Newett et al., 2018). This process greatly impacts the way that users present themselves in this online dating space. While online identities can range from an authentic self to a completely fraudulent profile, this essay will focus on how the idealised, yet unauthentic portrayal of oneself is created through features such as images, bio, and messages.   

 

Photos 

The first experience of other users on Tinder is their photos, which can lead to users selecting photos of themselves that may not be authentic and do not represent how they look offline, in order to gain more attention from other users. Users will make their decision of whether to engage further with another user’s profile, by swiping left or right, to express interest in someone with a ‘match’ or reject someone, based on the visual component of the profile. The process of swiping on user profiles, matching or rejecting, is heavily gamified, encouraging users to make a quick decision based off their initial impression (LeFebvre, 2017). Because of this initial visual impression that matching with other users is based on, when creating a profile, users will include photos that present themselves in a way that is attractive and appealing to other users (Chamourian, 2017). Users do this by filtering all photos of themselves (van Hoof, 2019), using strategies such as including only photos with flattering poses, makeup or using older images to appear younger (Dunlop, 2018), in order to present only photos that highlight favourable traits and hide others that they do not wish to share. As the focus of dating apps is to connect with other people to find a romantic partner, some users may take presenting flattering photographs to a new level. Some dating app users may be inclined to edit their own photos to appear more attractive or conceal parts of their visual appearance that they may be insecure about (Ranzini & Lutz, 2017). While the inclusion of photos allows users to share their physical features, such as age, gender, hair colour and height, it is also a useful tool in order to visually communicate personal interests and hobbies, based on what the user is doing in the photographs (Chamourian, 2017). In choosing photographs with this in mind, users can select photos that not only create an unauthentic physical self-image, based on looks, but they also have the opportunity to portray a false idea of the kind of life they live and activities they like to take part in (Dunlop, 2018). As the nature of Tinder is based heavily on the photos that users provide in order to portray themselves, there is a lot of value that is given to these photos. Because of this high value placed on images, users frequently present an idealised version of themselves to demonstrate to others that they are worthy of being matched with, doing this through choosing specific and flattering photos to include, as well as providing images that may be modified to increase desirability.   

 

Bio Text

The limited amount of text that can be included in a user’s profile on Tinder means that a user will try and include information that is relevant, yet information that they think will have the greatest impact on users who may have interest in them. This creates an issue of authenticity, as users are only presenting one part of themselves, that is usually only the positive side, in order to make themselves appear more desirable. Text information that is usually included in a user’s profile includes age, location, occupation, the university they attend and a free space for users to write their own bio text. This bio text is often what users start conversations about (Dunlop, 2018) with people including questions or funny anecdotes in this area. Humour is also utilised in bios to grasp another user’s attention, as the brief initial interaction that users have with each other requires a quick hook in order to encourage them to swipe right to create a match (Dunlop, 2018). This use of humour is also unauthentic, as users who have jokes in their profile bio will not constantly be joking or funny, however that is the part of themselves that they are choosing to highlight and share, in order to make themselves seem like they are more fun and consequently more worthy of being matched with (Dunlop, 2018). The use of the preset information fields, such as age, location, occupation, and university also give more insight into who a person is (Chamourian, 2017). While age and location are required to be shown on their profile, the user has the ability choose to exclude information about their job, which would allow them to withhold information about their financial status, therefore letting them potentially construct a different narrative about the type of life they lead (Chamourian, 2017). Another way that people can misrepresent themselves through Tinder bios is by including false information regarding the type of relationship they are looking for (Chamourian, 2017). Users have the ability to encourage more users to swipe right to create more matches, by including information that implies they are looking for a serious relationship, however users could take advantage of this, by saying they are looking for a relationship, when they may actually only be after a casual encounter (Chamourian, 2017), therefore deceiving other users into matching with them for their own personal gain. Users create a curated self-identity through the limited amount of text they can display on their profile, for other users to view briefly. It is through the inclusion of only interesting information and omitting of information that implies lower desirability that users create their idealised online persona, that they believe will encourage more matches.

 

Messaging Capabilities 

While the exchanged interaction with another user in the form of messages, could seem to provide more authenticity of what a person is like, it is also possible for the user to still conceal parts of themselves that they do not wish to share. On Tinder, once both users express their interest in each other through a match, the platform allows messaging capabilities to occur between the two. It is through these messages that they can get to know each other better through personal communication, rather than the viewing of curated and limited images and text they provide for the greater group of users to preview and hopefully gain interest. While they are having a more personal connection with each other, there is still room for an unauthentic self-presentation to occur. Once they have matched with another user, users can control their behaviour, in order to act in a certain way that would be more favourable and indicative of being a good potential partner, in a process called impression management (Ward, 2016). It is common for users to present themselves as being more outgoing over online messages, while they may actually be more reserved or shy in a physical, offline setting (Chamourian, 2017). Users who are less confident with their offline self-identity, are more likely to use Tinder in a way that presents an unauthentic version of themselves (Ranzini & Lutz, 2017). This may be due to users feeling as though they need to pretend that they are confident in order to appear as a better option for someone to match with (Ranzini & Lutz, 2017). Users engage in self disclosure after matching with another user, to share personal details about themselves, however due to the uncertain nature of talking openly with a stranger, users will not freely share personal information about themselves, as they may not be comfortable (Ward, 2016). This, in turn, creates an alternate identity of the user that is free from personal or private information, that is created not to deceive, but to protect themselves. Although this identity is created with their safety in mind, it is still another version that users create of themselves, that conceals information about who they are. After matching with another user, the need to present an idealised self-identity does not cease, users still wish to present themselves as a favourable partner candidate, in order to ensure that they have demonstrated the best persona to foster attraction and connection with the other user.

 

Conclusion

The features of Tinder, such as the photos users present, the bio information they include and the way they interact via messaging, allow a user to create an alternate identity in order to attract more potential partners. The users carefully curate their online identity, in order to cater to the way Tinder works, which can result in it being an unauthentic representation of self. The brief way the user profiles are initially engaged with, may influence users to utilise the features in a way that presents themselves in a more favourable light, to attract attention quickly and encourage other users to express their interest in them, by swiping right to facilitate a match. While the curation of self-presentation is not limited to dating apps, it is common for identities on these platforms to be idealised, therefore meaning that the identities of those who exist on these platforms are presented as an unauthentic, elevated representation of self.

 

References 

Chamourian, E. (2017). Identity performance and self presentation through dating app profiles: How individuals curate profiles and participate on bumble. [Master’s thesis, The American University of Paris (France)]. ProQuest Dissertations Publishing. https://www.proquest.com/openview/a50045f5889138d0facefc0d61e87e22/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=2026366&diss=y

Dunlop, J. (2018). App-ily ever after – self-presentation and perception of others on the dating app Tinder. [Master’s thesis, University of Central Florida] University of Central Florida. http://purl.fcla.edu/fcla/etd/CFE0007325

LeFebvre, L. (2017). Swiping me off my feet: Explicating relationship initiation on Tinder. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35(9), 1205-1229. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407517706419

Newett, L., Churchill, B., & Robards, B. (2018). Forming connections in the digital era: Tinder, a new tool in young Australian intimate life. Journal of Sociology54(3), 346–361. https://doi.org/10.1177/1440783317728584

Ranzini, G., & Lutz, C. (2017). Love at first swipe? Explaining Tinder self presentation and motives. Mobile Media & Communication5(1), 80-101. https://doi.org/10.1177/2050157916664559

van Hoof, J. (2019). Swipe Right? Tinder, commitment and the commercialisation of intimate life. In J. Carter & L. Arocha, Romantic relationships in a time of ‘cold intimacies’ (pp. 109-127). Springer International Publishing AG. http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/curtin/detail.action?docID=5969393

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18 responses to “Online vs Offline: The Effect of Tinder on Self-Presentation”

  1. Jana.Rotzler Avatar
    Jana.Rotzler

    Hi Mia,
    This was a really enjoyable and insightful read. I completely agree that Tinder has created a space for people to share an unrealistic, inauthentic presentation of themselves. The features of the app almost make it seem like users are “shopping” for their next partner or romantic interest. Do you think that Tinder has changed the way in which people date today? If so, do you think it has made it easier or harder to date in today’s society with the increased use of online dating platforms?
    I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    Regards,
    Jana

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Jana,

      Thank you for taking the time to read my paper.

      I do think that Tinder has changed dating today, however I can’t say for certain whether it is a overall negative or positive change. I think there are elements that contribute to it being a better and worse experience, so it is difficult to make a call on if it is an ultimately good or bad thing.

      I think some of the ways Tinder makes it easier to date in today’s society include the accessibility to and reach of people, for example the app allows users to connect with others up to approximately 160km away from their current location. Tinder subscribers also have the ability to access Tinder Passport, which allows them to “visit” other countries and pick a location on a map to see the potential matches in the new location.

      Another way that I think Tinder has changed dating for the better is through its ability to allow those who may not be as outgoing or confident in a dating setting to successfully communicate with others with the intention of a romantic relationship.

      One of the ways that I believe Tinder makes it harder to date in today’s society is through the uncertainty of authenticity of those on the platform, as I mentioned in my paper. I think that because of the potential for deception (in the form of catfishing), there can be some hesitance from users, which doesn’t allow them to connect and feel safe in sharing and communicating openly.

      Kind regards,
      Mia

  2. Tien.T.Le Avatar
    Tien.T.Le

    Hi Mia,

    First off, this is a great paper! I find it so intriguing that Tinder is so popular, yet the app is increasingly becoming a negative space, specifically to false representations that likely results from unrealistic standards and expectations. Why do people continue to use it, then? I think it’s because not only is it addictive, but also because users find they like themselves better in their false identity, which is so disheartening. I wonder if dating online has any positives to them at all? For example, finding people online is, now with the emergence of new technologies, is easier than ever. Do you think that’s why people resort to online dating – because they can’t find anyone they connect with in the real world? Great paper once again!

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Tien.T.Le,

      Thank you for reading my paper.

      I do agree that Tinder is addictive, as its features are heavily gamified, which encourage users to stay on the app and keep swiping.

      In response to your question about why people still use Tinder, as I mentioned in my response to Jana, I think that although Tinder has some negative changes on dating in today’s society, in some ways, it also has the opportunity to make dating a more positive experience for those who use the app.

      I think that for people who prefer their false identity, although this is definitely disheartening, it might not always be a negative thing in certain situations, as it may allow people to have a better dating experience.

      One example of a situation where I believe the false identity isn’t a negative or deceptive thing, is in the case of people who are very shy in ‘real life’. Some who experiences shyness may find it difficult to converse with a total stranger that they meet in a public place and may feel added pressure if they have a romantic interest in that person, that they wish to express. If this person was to meet people and communicate via Tinder they may feel more willing to communicate, as they have the screen as a barrier between them and the person they are talking to.

      I think people turn to online dating for a multitude of reasons, including the previous example of shyness, the opportunity it gives to meet new people from different locations and the ease with which people can facilitate romantic connections.

      Thanks again for reading my paper!

      Kind regards,
      Mia

  3. Shane.Bundoo Avatar
    Shane.Bundoo

    Hi Mia,

    The text argues that online users tend to showcase only their positive attributes in their profile bios. However, this phenomenon is not unique to the digital world; people tend to present themselves in the best possible light in any setting, be it online or offline. The desire to create a positive impression and be well-liked is a universal human trait, and people often tailor their self-presentation to suit their audience.

    In the case of online profiles, the limited space available to describe oneself adds another layer of complexity to self-presentation. It can be challenging to convey a fully authentic version of oneself in a brief profile bio. Moreover, the online environment can be particularly competitive, and users may feel pressure to stand out from the crowd and attract attention.

    Despite these challenges, it is possible to present an authentic version of oneself in a profile bio. The key is to strike a balance between showcasing one’s positive qualities and being honest about one’s limitations and imperfections. Rather than trying to present a flawless image, one can aim to communicate their unique personality and values. Ultimately, the authenticity of one’s profile bio will depend on their willingness to be vulnerable and open about themselves.

    Isn’t this true of all self-presentation, whether online or offline? Do you think it’s possible to present a fully authentic version of oneself in a brief profile bio?

    Regards,
    Shane

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Shane,

      Thank you for taking the time to read my paper.

      Although it may be possible to present an authentic version of oneself in the brief profile, I think it is unlikely that users will always be completely upfront and open about their unfavourable traits. I also think that when presented with the limited capabilities of the profile, users may be less inclined to display their imperfections as the images or words they choose to share bear a lot of weight, as they do not have many positive photos to ‘drown out’ the negative.

      I do agree, it is possible to present an idealised self in both online and offline spaces. However, in online spaces, when someone presents an idealised self and they meet their ‘matches’ in the offline space, they can be perceived as being deceitful because of the possible safety risk that online dating apps have.

      Thanks again.

      Kind regards,
      Mia

      1. Shane.Bundoo Avatar
        Shane.Bundoo

        Hi Mia
        Thank you for taking the time to read my comment.

        The argument you made regarding users being less likely to expose their flaws on Tinder owing to restricted profile possibilities is intriguing. It emphasizes the difficulty of effectively describing oneself in a compact fashion, where positive characteristics may outweigh bad elements. Furthermore, there is much worry about perceptions of deception when transferring from online to real relationships, particularly in light of the safety issues connected with online dating applications. Further investigation of these processes can give useful insights into the impact of Tinder on self-presentation and the consequences for creating honest connections.

        However, given the restrictions of profile representation and the weight given to selected photos and text, do you suppose individuals are encouraged to offer a more idealised version of themselves on Tinder? How does this differ from offline encounters in which the impression is built across numerous dimensions?

        Thanks again.

        Kind regards,
        Shane

  4. Luke Lwin Avatar

    Hi Mia,
    Very interesting read. I agree with thee statement you made that dating apps influence individuals to create a false presentation of themselves for acceptance and attention. The dating app serves as more of a casual relationship meet rather than a proper dating function. One question I wanted to ask is do you believe that there are any benefits of being active on the app, or do you think the overall perception of being on the app means that a person will skew their presentation of themselves at all costs?
    Thanks, Luke

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Luke,

      Thanks for reading my paper!

      I think that there can be benefits of being on Tinder, such as fostering connections easily for those far distances apart or those who are shy in physical spaces.

      As for the question about people always skewing their presentation of self in online dating spaces – I think that the brief profile creation capabilities will encourage the users to only present the traits that they believe will be favourable to potential romantic partners. It might not be all users that present themselves in an idealised way, but I believe that most people would not want to reveal their flaws upfront when putting a version of themselves online for people to make a judgement on.

      Kind regards,
      Mia

  5. Grace.Kim1 Avatar
    Grace.Kim1

    Hi Mia,

    I loved reading this post! I do agree that Tinder has become a platform where people want to portray the best version of themselves, through false representations. Do you think there is any way to encourage people to show the real version of themselves? Do you think Tinder should create stricter guidelines or provide more detailed information about oneself to truly represent true identity?
    I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

    Regards,
    Grace

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Grace,

      Thank you for reading my paper!

      Yes, I think that the platform should do something to ensure that users present themselves in a way that is truthful.

      I think that Tinder has taken steps to ensure that users’ photos are representative of what they actually look like, through the introduction of verification badges. To receive a verification badge, users must use their camera to take a photo of themselves and the app will determine if it matches the photos they have provided.

      I think this is a good first step, but it doesn’t verify the details about a person that they provide about themselves in the bio.

      Kind regards,
      Mia

  6. Ajeng.Wulandari Avatar
    Ajeng.Wulandari

    Hello Mia,

    This is a really interesting paper! It is well structured and presents a clear examination of the ways in which Tinder users create online identities that differ from their offline selves! It does take away the idea of meeting genuine people online, as most people on Tinder swipe based on other users’ looks and possibly fake personas instead of real connections. How do you think the features of other dating apps differ from Tinder in terms of facilitating users to construct fake personas or unauthentic identities? What are the potential consequences of creating these personas on dating apps like Tinder? Moreover, do you think users’ online identities could ever truly reflect their offline selves?

    Let me know what you think!

    1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
      Mia.Sorci

      Hi Ajeng,

      Thank you for reading my paper.

      I think Tinder only allows users to create a very vague and brief profile compared to other dating apps, which encourages them to only present their favourable features.

      The potential consequences of this idealised persona is that when they meet people they met on the app in real life they might not be well represented in their profile and will not be what the person they are meeting with will expect.

      I think there is the potential for someone to reflect themselves accurately online, however I think in a dating setting when people want to put their best foot forward, combined with the limited nature of the profile, they will choose to only present their ‘good’ traits.

      Kind regards,
      Mia

      1. Jaida.Adams Avatar
        Jaida.Adams

        Hi Mia!

        Great paper. Further Ajeng question, does Tinder currently impose any consequences for inauthentic profiles?

        Taking the perspective of false identities (a broader topic), what measure o think thin would be viable to ensure people are being truthful about themselves online?

        Cheers,
        Jaida

        1. Mia.Sorci Avatar
          Mia.Sorci

          Hi Jaida,

          Tinder does not appear to have any consequences for inauthentic profiles. I think that this is harder to monitor than something such as catfishing, as when a user presents themselves but unauthentically, it is still based on them with small details changed. Something that Tinder is doing to ensure that people are presenting an authentic version of themselves, is implement the verification badge, which incentivises people to verify themselves by matching the photos on their profile with a real time photo that is reviewed and either accepted or declined by the app as being a match with the profile.

          Tinder has a zero tolerance policy when it comes to false identities (Tinder, n.d.) and they say that they will shut down the account if impersonation is confirmed. This however, is based on reports that come from other users of the app, so is reliant on people flagging suspicious profiles.

          References
          Tinder. (n.d). Tinder Safety and Policy Center. https://policies.tinder.com/safety-and-policy/intl/en

  7. Erwan Lucas Rene Avatar
    Erwan Lucas Rene

    Hello Mia,

    I really appreciated reading your work. Basically, Tinder’s specific purpose in the beginning was to help people find a romantic partner as you mentioned. Since the introduction of dating apps, a lot of people depend on them in the hope of meeting someone to share their life with. So, do you think that this has an impact on how this new generation of adolescents and young adults think that the dating process looks like? Do you think that they would still hope to meet someone in their real life with whom they could get into a relationship with apart from online dating and be able to be their real self to attract him/her?

    Regards,
    Erwan 🙂

  8. Callum.White Avatar
    Callum.White

    Hi Mia,
    Interesting read, I agree with the over all message of your piece and you can definitely see it on tinder. How do you think this impacts a relationship if it were to truly form. Do you think that there is the possibility for a real connection when it is essentially built on lies? I personally believe that when someone first gets feelings they will only see the good in someone at first, and then will eventually see the flaws in their personality somewhere down the road, therefore the app does not differ so much from a ‘real’ relationship. However I think the main flaw could be trusting the partner when they have access to a platform as such, where others are also constantly representing their best self, seeking validation and such- which can be addictive, and can therefore make someone second guess the ‘option’ they chose. Is there too much choice? Is tinder ethical?

  9. Alisha.Hiscox Avatar
    Alisha.Hiscox

    Hi Mia,

    This was a very interesting and informative read! I love how you mentioned how Tinder has essentially gamified dating. I personally agree that Tinder feels like a game, through the swipe function as it becomes addictive as you swipe left and right, waiting for a match to pop up! I was wondering whether you thought since Tinder feels like a game, that this form of dating will become addictive? Do you think that once someone does find their perfect match on Tinder, they will miss the dopamine rush of getting lots of matches and talking to so many different prospective partners at once? I also wonder this as you discuss how people only present their most ideal and favourable self on this app. Do you think that having a partner who begins to see past this constructed persona and sees their flaws, will drive them back to Tinder, where they can exist again as their perfect version of themselves?

    If you happen to see this before the conference closes, I would love to hear your thoughts 🙂

    Thanks,
    Alisha

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