Survival of the Queerest: the Necessity of Community-Building on TikTok

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ABSTRACT

The LGBTIQA+ community (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer/Questioning, Asexual, and other gender and/or sexually diverse) is one of adaptability and resilience. Reliance on one another has always been a key aspect of LGBTIQA+ culture. Due to a chronic lack of resources and physical spaces, this support system has been transposed online, specifically onto TikTok, by the youth of the community. This paper seeks to demonstrate how this newfound non-tangibility may not be an upgrade for the LGBTIQA+ community, but it is a necessity for the survival of its members.

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On a historical scale, public opinion and support for LGBTIQA+ individuals are at an all-time high. There has been a documented rapid increase of public support, including a doubling in public support for gay men and women in the United States in the past three decades (Flores, 2021, para.1). In my experience as a bisexual, transgender person in Canada, I have been fortunate to be able to explore my identity – including affordable access to gender-affirming healthcare – with minimal difficulty. This is a feat which, decades prior, would have been fraught with dangerous hurdles. However, the current wave of progress does not wash away the historical discrimination and violence which the LGBTIQA+ community has faced and continues to face. Decades of homophobia and transphobia have proven fatal, resulting in a critical shortage of LGBTIQA+ elders. This demographic is a trusted source of support, resources, education, and more for LGBTIQA+ youth. Growing up without guidance as a marginalized person is difficult and can be deadly, thus, the young LGBTIQA+ community has developed novel methods of navigating this disadvantage. LGBTIQA+ youth, more often self-referenced online as “the queer community” or “the queers,” have turned to online spaces in an attempt to bridge the generational gap felt from the lack of queer elders. The queer community has thrived on TikTok where the robust algorithm is known to expertly discern a user’s identity, providing content specific to the community to which an individual belongs (Tidy & Galer, 2020, para. 11-16). This paper will argue that the insurgence of the queer community on TikTok was born out of necessity, and despite advantages such as effective queer signaling, the sharing of resources, and increased accessibility, it is not an adequate replacement for physical queer spaces.

DISCUSSION

The LGBTIQA+ community has always been one of resilience and adaptability, shown through aspects such as resource-sharing and ever-changing terminology. The modern day reanimation of the term “queer” as an identity is a prime example wherein the marginalized gay community has reclaimed power over a once derogatory term (Rocheleau, 2019). Though recently popularized, the term “queer” has been discussed as a global descriptor since at least the late twentieth century. It was defined by celebrated queer theorist Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick in 1993 as a term that “can refer to: the open mesh of possibilities, gaps, overlaps, dissonances and resonances, lapses and excesses of meaning when the constituent elements of anyone’s gender, of anyone’s sexuality aren’t made (or can’t be made) to signify monolithically” (Sedgwick, 1993, p.8). At its base, “queer” represents the core values of the LGBTIQA+ community: a binary-breaking term not limited by cis- and/or heteronormativity within which anyone can feel comfortable to express themselves. The modern use of “queer” is the perfect love letter to generations past and has become an important staple of the modern, online LGBTIQA+ community, with hashtags such as #queer and #queertok garnering over 20.7 billion and 1.8 billion views, respectively, on TikTok. 

These hashtags, and others similar, provide accurate pointers towards a user’s intended audience and help further direct viewers to similar content and creators. Seeing #gay or #lgbt in the caption of a person’s post quickly indicates not only what kind of content you’re seeing, but also who is responsible for creating it. The use of such classifiers is easily paralleled to queer signaling: the act of covertly indicating one’s identity or preferences to other members of the community (Syracuse University, 2022). Varieties of queer signaling have existed over the years, such as the Hanky Code, pictured here, which was a form of discrete communication initiated by gay men in the 1970’s to indicate their sexual preferences to one another. Depending on the colour of one’s handkerchief and the pocket in which it was worn, hankies were indicative of specific homosexual tendencies. Another person’s sexuality could be easily communicated without the fear of being outed or discriminated against, as heterosexuals were oblivious to the Hanky Code (The Hanky Code, 2010). On TikTok, this same heterosexual ignorance is supported by the algorithm wherein the content you engage with dictates the further content you see. Hence, non-queer TikTok users are often oblivious to the trends and practices of their queer counterparts. This is the unique benefit of hashtags as a form of queer signaling: by engaging with content tagged with queer-specific hashtags, you are further immersed within the queer community. 

 Furthermore, hashtags have long since evolved from their origins as merely content classifiers. In 2018, the use of hashtags as “a social resource for building relationships and communities” was already being explored (Zappavigna, 2018, p.3). This is how communities on most social media platforms – Instagram, Twitter, etc. – have been forged and maintained. TikTok proves its aptitude in community-building by further addressing the common concern of both users and researchers: what if a post does not use hashtags (Allcott & Gentzkow, 2017)? In response, since 2022, TikTok has rendered all of the textual contents of a video searchable – captions (including hashtags), closed captions, words written on-screen, words spoken, and more (Vandernick, 2022). This means that searching for community and remaining within it is simple and accessible on TikTok. 

As well, more than simply being said outright, there also exists traditional and covert methods of queer signaling on #queertok. These indicators are under constant evolution as trends evolve, offering an added layer of discreteness. One example is a direct parallel to queer signaling questions such as “Are you a friend of Dorothy?” from the 1940’s. This question was asked by gay men to other men in order to discern whether he was gay as well – if he caught on to the subliminal messaging and answered accordingly, it was indicative of his sexuality (Necessary, 2022). A similar method existed on TikTok in 2020 wherein users could ask non-men creators “do you listen to girl in red?” and, depending on their response, would know whether the creator was lesbian/queer without asking directly (Vaynshteyn, 2021). This phenomenon evolved further, streamlining the process: simply the use of a girl in red audio became indicative of sapphism. This is a common occurence wherein the use of specific sounds on TikTok or participation in certain trends is a clear indicator of queerness. Oftentimes, there will even be queer sub-trends within larger heteronormative trends, proving the ease of bond-building on TikTok. In these situations, it is often not necessary to explicitly state one’s gender identity or sexuality; the mere use of a specific track is indicative enough to the savvy few. A recent example of this was the use of the song “Christmas Kids” by ROAR. The track has been used on TikTok to depict the stark difference of individuals from childhood to adulthood; the trend was quickly co-opted by the transgender community to showcase their gender transitions (Coffey, 2023; Helm, 2023). 

Trans-specific trends such as “Christmas Kids” are not a rare occurrence on TikTok; the transgender community is very active on the platform. Hashtags such as #trans and #ftm (abbreviation of female-to-male, in terms of gender transition) currently boast 54.3 billion and 18.8 billion views respectively. As a participant and casual creator within the community, I can attest to its welcoming nature and resourcefulness. My personal testimonies stem from the transmasculine community; however, most, if not all, queer communities practice similar educational and resource-sharing practices. 

These communal skills are incredibly beneficial, but they only exist as the result of decades of discrimination – societal, medical, and otherwise – which has led to a critical lack of queer and transgender information. There has been a relatively recent increase in support for gender diverse education such as in Australia, where support for trans-inclusive curriculums in primary schools has increased by approximately 26% since 2016 (Karp, 2016, para.4; Ferfolja & Ullman, 2023). Even so, many educators remain apprehensive when discussing LGBTIQA+ topics and may opt to avoid or only briefly discuss the content due to potential backlash and/or a lack of education on the topics  (Ferfolja & Ullman, 2023, para.4). This informational lapse extends into the medical field wherein the majority of medical professionals remain uneducated or under-educated in trans-inclusive healthcare. LGBTIQA+ healthcare education is often compulsory and not mandatory; one of the more common practices is to provide doctors with elective workshop sessions, often of 1-2 hours in length (van Heesewijk et al., 2022, p.834). This evidently leads to many issues such as a lack of participation from certain demographics. It is well documented that male and cisgender people have especially low participation rates (van Heesewijk et al., 2022, p.835). As well, though it has been cited in America that over 85% of their medical schools teach trans-inclusive healthcare, this was based on a minimum of one hour of transgender curricular content – a meager amount considering the average length of a training program is 27 months (Rolls et al., 2020, p.1564). As well, the delivered content most often relates to patient interaction skills (pronouns, preferred names, etc.) rather than medical skills (hormone therapy, surgery, etc.) (Rolls et al., 2020, p.1567). This represents a small, specific fraction of the factors which contribute to not only a chronic lack of experience regarding transgender-specific issues, but also a resulting lack of trust from the transgender community. Thus, many transgender people, myself included, rely on anecdotal or casual information sources from their community. Attesting with my personal experience, transgender people would rather learn from other transgender people – though with the lack of available resources and information, there is often no other option. 

Thus, in typical fashion for the queer community, transgender TikTok users use their initiative to bridge the informational gap. Videos such as “Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started Testosterone” or “Things No One Tells You About Testosterone” are very common on the platform – testosterone being the hormone used in hormone reassignment therapy (HRT) for transmasculine individuals (Jordyn, 2021; Miles, 2023). As the titles suggest, education about HRT, and gender-affirming care in general, is often incomprehensive. This is dangerous as gender-affirming care has already been proven repeatedly to be life-saving, reducing depression and suicide rates in youth by 60-70% (Tordoff et al., 2022). Through my own experience online, I learned vital information such as the specifics of certain side effects of HRT and advice on how best to apply testosterone, for example. The transmasculine community also shares non-medical information – which remains critical as gender-affirming care – such as navigating “coming out” practices, tips to help pass as one’s gender, and more. In the comments of these videos, you can find hundreds and thousands of other transgender individuals exclaiming their appreciation for the information and revelling in the relatability. This solidifies the globally accepted claim of researchers that having access to minority role models increases resilience and quality of life (Hurd et al., 2008). 

Beyond the transgender community, online spaces allow for more individuals to participate in queer culture, such as allowing queer elders to remain connected with one another as their mobility reduces (Bitterman & Hess, 2020). Other individuals who may also experience accessibility issues (such as those with disabilities, those living in rural areas or with homophobic families, etc.) also benefit from the on-demand nature of the TikTok community. Queer spaces and queer events, such as a queer book club for example, are no longer off-limits to a substantial demographic of people (Cervini, 2023). This means that a larger amount of the public is able to access life-saving resources, educational material, and general community support. Queer people are already more likely to declare themselves as “lonely” due to a multitude of factors – a state of being which can lead to depression, suicidal ideation, increased risks of heart disease & stroke, premature death, and more (Merschel, 2023). Any efforts made to combat queer isolation is an act of queer preservation. 

 

CONCLUSION

In the aftermath of a global pandemic which incited chronic isolation for everyone worldwide, it is clear how important it is to have these accessible infrastructures in place lest we need them once more. The queer community already persists as a demographic more strongly impacted by the effects of isolation, and as such, it is especially important to combat it at all costs. Online spaces on TikTok curated by younger generations have readily become the heart of the queer community, keeping the culture and its members alive. Presented with this information, it is tempting to declare that an online existence presents an improvement for queer culture. However, certain people may have difficulty or reservations, rendering it difficult to engage online effectively. Existing online does not necessarily render a service more accessible. As well, critical aspects such as providing shelter & housing, safe spaces, and career opportunities are lost in non-tangible spaces (De Lise, 2022). Though having an online community is better than no community at all, there needs to be a multifaceted strategy in order to better support queer youth and futures. To serve the queers as a whole, we need to adopt an approach to LGBTIQA+ community-building that is as inclusive as the community itself.

 

 

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34 responses to “Survival of the Queerest: the Necessity of Community-Building on TikTok”

  1. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
    Stephen.B.Bain

    Hi Finch,

    I like that you provide the example of “queer” being reclaimed as a term … so often we see nomenclature cancelled rather than reclaimed. The success of the reclaiming sends a powerful message in my opinion (for what that’s worth).

    Has the education/knowledge-sharing on TikTok also noticeably spread to non-TikTok communities ?

    Kind Regards
    SteveB

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Steve, thank you for your comment.

      I echo your feelings involving the reclaiming of “queer.” It has proven a suitable & helpful term for those who do not wish to limit or restrain their identity with a restricting label. The reclaiming of “queer” happened very naturally and swiftly within the community – interestingly enough, many people are unaware of its origins as a slur. I appreciate you recognizing its power as a form of message.

      Most, if not all, social media platforms definitely share the same resource-sharing & community-building qualities as TikTok. However, it manifests in different ways depending on the main content of the platform. Instagram, for example, as a chiefly photo-based platform, lends more to LGBT art, queer fanart, and infographics. I would also perhaps argue that Instagram presents itself as more of a network of shared information rather than a community. I find the sense of community to be weaker on Instagram – on TikTok, there is a sense of being within a safe bubble on the internet, a kind of safe space. In a funny way, many of my friends cite that they forget not everyone is queer and neurodivergent and that TikTok feeds can differ drastically.
      I wonder if you have any similar experiences with community on TikTok, or social media in general? I know the queer community is definitely not the sole community-builders online and I’m curious if these same feelings are shared within other spaces.

      Cheers,
      Finch

  2. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
    Stephen.B.Bain

    Hi Finch,

    With regard to your enquiry,

    “I wonder if you have any similar experiences with community on TikTok, or social media in general? I know the queer community is definitely not the sole community-builders online and I’m curious if these same feelings are shared within other spaces.”

    Due to a number of factors I’m not really able to be too active in/on open-forum SNS. And I’m pretty much banned by circumstance from using TikTok. One I can discuss (carefully), is that as a conservation advocate (who believes in culling as well as killing for science/sampling) I’m more often likely to end up in a closed community online (which I’m told can’t be considered as SNS).

    As an example of the risk in open-forums, death threats and day-job security issues are not-uncommon. As a personal example I’ve been discredited in my former workplace by a person who I later found out was high-up in an anti-killing organisation … next, photos of my actions at my place (I was butchering; which I am widely published in) ended up at that same organisation – even the organisation discredited the nefarious attack on me by their followers. Even within closed communities there are people who can’t disclose their identity because workmates come ‘aboard’ to hunt them out in order to discredit them out in the real world. So in that context, I’m not online (much) on SNS.

    I have however been involved in some quite large closed-communities online and to me they operate just like an SNS, albeit with greater moderation and banning of jerks. On these sites I have found that they have all of the positives of SNS; communities form, minorities like the disabled enjoy that they can participate – often participating as normally as anyone else (their words), a few jerks and bullies still have a go, overall a good experience when associated with an interest or purpose (rather being on there for the sake of being on there because there’s nothing else better to do with one’s time).

    In summary, the community(ies) I associate with online can’t be built in an open-forum, but having identified this the community makes it’s own third-space (which IMO is a similar scenario to that which is described in other papers within this conference e.g. Esha’s paper on FFXIV).

    Good Question
    Steve

    ps: As examples, I’ve killed big fish for science (sampling of stomach parasites to determine migration patterns); and I’ve shot species for DNA sampling (to ultimately confirm that they were the last remaining pocket of a sub-species) … if photo(s) of me and these critters were posted on an open-forum I’d bet London to a brick that I’d get hate-mail and a few punters would even wish-me-dead/pain (all this is familiar territory for most who are in the pro-culling space)

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hey Steve,

      Ah, that definitely seems like a tricky situation. I could see how this aspect of yourself could be inflammatory online and incite negativity. It sounds like conservation is a very passionate subject for you, but have you ever tried or considered omitting this aspect in your online experiences? I don’t necessarily mean lying but perhaps focusing on your other traits or hobbies (such as gaming, reading, media you enjoy, for example) in order to participate in more open-forum spaces. Could also potentially go entirely anonymous (blank-slate “user2931289” type profile). Many people online use the possible anonymity of the Internet in this manner already – many cite it as one of the pros of online interactions! I know a lot of queer people who used this aspect online to help “figure out” their identities (for lack of a more adequate term) in a safer manner.
      I know this could feel disingenuous and it sounds like you’ve found a very suitable substitute anyways, but just curious how you’d feel about it.

      Thanks for your in-depth response,
      Finch

      1. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
        Stephen.B.Bain

        Hi Finch,

        Thank you for offering up an idea for me to think about. It read just comments earlier today and thought about it some more when I went for a jog just now.

        I’m thinking that your ‘incognito idea’ would help me test market some approaches/concepts (including some ideas I’m getting from continuing my research and especially ideas I’m getting from this conference) … and this surely would in-turn generate more confidence for me around SNS.

        Great suggestion!
        SteveB

        1. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
          Stephen.B.Bain

          scratch the ‘It read just’ and insert ‘I read your’

        2. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
          Finch.Assadoullaev

          Hi Steve,

          Glad to hear you think positively of the idea! I hope it goes well and your online interactions are fun haha

          Thanks for all your discussion,
          Finch

  3. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
    Stephen.B.Bain

    A URL for Esha’s paper (which also includes some discussion on third-spaces)

    https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2023/csm/505/online-spaces-networked-individualism-a-case-study-of-final-fantasy-xiv/

    Caveat: I reference Esha’s topic as one that includes an example of where a third space may be specifically ‘built’/targeted for a specific interest (rather than as networked public in amongst all the happenings of a broader SNS platform)

  4. Iesha Roberts Avatar
    Iesha Roberts

    Hi Finch!

    I liked this a lot, especially as I’m not on TikTok. It was such an interesting insight into the diverse and positive ways in which the LGTBQIA+ community interacts with one another, and how such positive interactions and continuous community building are a necessary part of enriching and growing the online experience.

    I speak like I’m distant to the community, but I’m an AFAB asexual, so how I’ve been (and seen others like me) treated online kind of colours how I talk about these issues. For me, in the Twitter space, it’s been that sort of ‘you’re not queer enough’ or ‘you’re faking it’ or ‘you’re not really LGBTQIA+’, that’s been… not prominent, but in my periphery and circle enough to inform how I talk about myself. Twitter is especially egregious for this, so it’s good to know TikTok has a more welcoming community by comparison!

    Speaking of online spaces, I note in your response to Steve earlier: “In a funny way, many of my friends cite that they forget not everyone is queer and neurodivergent and that TikTok feeds can differ drastically.” It was the same feeling for me, but on Tumblr (during its heyday) specifically! Tumblr was how I found out about asexuality along with the other myriad identities under the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, and how I learned that hey, I’m probably not broken it’s just a Thing.

    To get to a bit more of a point, I feel as though a third place offered in-person might serve a different function to the third space offered online for the queer community, and that they’re both necessary. Having one over the other isn’t a good idea, either. Do you have any thoughts on this? Are they both a third space for the queer community, or would they be considered separate spaces for the queer community? Incidentally, do you believe the shortcomings of the online community could be made up for by the in-person third space, or vice-versa?

    Cheers!

    1. Carolyn.Roe Avatar
      Carolyn.Roe

      Hi Iesha,

      Your experiences with the idea of ‘not being queer enough’ resonated with me and the experiences of those close to me. I just thought I’d chime in to let you know that topic is being discussed more and more online, particularly on TikTok. Many queer creators are speaking loudly against those who try to invalidate someone’s identity. No one should have to present or look a certain way to be a valid queer person, or to fulfil a certain amount of identifiers.

      I hope this movement bleeds over into other online spaces, and that you have better experiences expressing your queer identity online.

      Thanks,
      Carolyn

      1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
        Finch.Assadoullaev

        Hi Carolyn, thanks for the comment.

        Growing up, I also definitely resonated with the notion of not being queer “enough” and limited myself for longer than I should have. TikTok was probably the main impetus for me to finally begin the process of coming out and accepting myself & my identity. However, I definitely couldn’t have done it as easily without my immediate, in-person support system & accepting community.
        Feel free to decline or ignore if this is an intrusion (my apologies if so!) but you mention relatability: did you have a similar experience?
        I’m also curious to hear what you think of the queer community on TikTok now – I mentioned in my reply to Lesha that I feel it has shifted since its early stage. Are you still active on the platform now? And what do you think?

        Thanks again for your input,
        Finch

        1. Carolyn.Roe Avatar
          Carolyn.Roe

          Hi Finch,

          I love your response to Iesha, you’ve very succintly made a lot of great points and summed up a lot of issues that the queer community faces. Thank you for linking the article on neurodivergence and queerness, it’s a correlation I’ve had my suspicions about so it’s nice to see it’s making it to academic literature!

          I’m also very glad to hear the role TikTok has played in your journey to self-acceptance, like I’m sure it has for many other queer youths around the world. But I definitely hear you, online support only goes so far, you also need people in your immediate circle, that you see face-to-face and are able to offer support that online platforms can’t.

          I have had similar experiences, yes. Like you and Iesha have both mentioned, my demographics and the way I present myself has often had me feeling like I do not have the right to identify as ‘queer’. I am privileged in many ways, a white cis female who is comfortable in my femininity. I am omnisexual (a term I only recently learned and started to identify with, but usually use the term ‘bisexual’ for ease of understanding) but in a long-term heterosexual relationship. I am very much passing as a non-queer individual, and likely as a result have not experienced the same level of discrimination that many others in the community have. Because of this I am very hesitant to openly identify as queer, as if it is something to be earned, not simply part of my identity. It’s a way of thinking I hope I’ll one day get over.

          I have also seen many young femmes who identify as bisexual being accused of only doing it for male attention, and would rather avoid stereotypes. I tend to not identify as queer online for these reasons. In person, I’m part of the WA Live Action Roleplay community which has been incredible! So many members of the community are queer and/or neurodivergent, and they are topics that are very openly discussed. It’s formed a huge part of my social education, for example learning how to be a better ally to trans and non-binary people, as well as support for my personal queer journey. It’s a very wholesome (and rare) place where queer and cis-het people interact regularly with absolute respect.

          As for your question on TikTok, yes I still use the platform. I think the nature of the platform means trends will sweep over the app in waves, sometimes these ‘trends’ are social justice related. At times, queer topics have been very dominant on the app. Though I haven’t seen this in a while. Any other general assessment of the app is a little hard to make, since I’m definitely in a particular corner of it guided by who I follow. But from what I have seen I do agree with you, the app itself has changed and so has the queer community on it. Possibly due to the saturation of viewers and creators, given that the app is a lot more mainstream than it used to be.

          Thank you both Finch and Iesha, I’ve really been enjoying this discussion and both your input.

          Take care,
          Carolyn

          1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
            Finch.Assadoullaev

            Hi Carolyn,

            Thank you for your thoughtful response!

            I appreciate you sharing your story and perspective and I too hope that you being queer as a meritocracy. I empathize with your feelings as someone who, in the past, had only been in straight-passing relationships. I know you know, but I’ll say it anyways: you belong in the community just as much as anyone else, despite potential outward appearances<3

            That's so cool that you've found a community like that! Not only sharing a common interest, but sounds like an incredible group of respectful, caring individuals. It's incredible how much it makes a difference and how much it allows you to grow as a person.

            Ah, as much as I hate to think of the community as a trend, you're probably right. I've also been in a different corner as of late and most of my queer content has been, unfortunately, centered around the dumpster fire going on in the US. I hope some of the more light-hearted and positive queer interactions return; hearing nothing but bad news has been disheartening. Haha, I love the mention of the app becoming mainstream at the end as it's something I'm often nervous to mention for fear of sounding gatekeep-y or too hipster – thank you!

            I've also appreciated our discussion! And as much as in-person community-building and conversation is great, there is an advantage of being able to look back on these moments in a more concrete way. Queer people are cool.

            Cheers,
            Finch

      2. Iesha Roberts Avatar
        Iesha Roberts

        Hi Carolyn,

        “No one should have to present or look a certain way to be a valid queer person, or to fulfil a certain amount of identifiers.” — you are absolutely right! It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who experienced this! It is bleeding a little into certain places, and a few creatives I follow on Twitter have expressed this sentiment as well, so it seems to be becoming more mainstream.

        I read your reply to Finch too, and really appreciate your insight, it resonated with me as well.

        Thank you for the reply! 🙂

    2. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hey Lesha! Thanks for coming by haha
      I’ve been trying to reply to this adequately but can’t seem to articulate my thoughts properly – I hope you can piece together what I mean! haha

      I wish you had been active on TikTok during 2020-2022 – I feel you would’ve enjoyed it. That time period on the platform heavily coloured my paper, comments, and discussion on this and I feel that the vibe on TikTok has changed since… This isn’t to say that the community on the platform has died or disappeared, I just feel the tone has shifted a bit.
      Funnily enough, many people do liken it to Tumblr actually! The discourse is very similar and many people – including myself – had the same identity awakening thanks to the TikTok community. I echo what Carolyn said (thanks Carolyn!). There is definitely a big emphasis online, on TikTok, of dismantling the idea of what “queer” should like – the use of the term “queer” itself is meant to further enable that. I hope you find somewhere, a community of some kind, where you feel welcome and accepted as you are<3 – whether that's online or in-person.

      To answer your line of questioning: I don't know.
      Though I was active in the community throughout my coming of age, it was from the perspective of a closeted "ally" which doesn't have the same experience. I only fully came out and accepted myself post-high school/through the pandemic and as such, haven't had much of an in-person queer community experience. Mostly, my community is the friends I have made (of which nearly all are queer).
      However, I definitely feel the two spaces need to function in tandem. The online space is very useful for the sharing of resources as the intangibility lends better to archiving, referencing, and accessing at later times. An in-person space, in my opinion, lends better to creating a sense of community, relatability, and support. There are also physical resources queer people require – I'm thinking medical support, emergency housing, etc. – which an online space is physically incapable of providing. I definitely feel that one makes up where the other lacks. Unfortunately, access to in-person resources remains very rare for a variety of reasons – post-pandemic restart, higher rates of acceptance for queer youth, etc.
      In both respects, I think it's also important to recognize the inaccessibility that either option possesses. As queer people are more likely to be affected by mental illnesses, discrimination, and poverty, physical spaces are important – both for shelter-providing as well as cases where technology is unavailable. Conversely, as neurodivergent/neurodiverse people are more likely to identify as trans & queer, an online option needs to exist for ease of communication & access (a couple studies/articles linking neurodivergence & queerness, in case you're interested: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32770077/, https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autism-infographics/trans-autism). The intersectionality within the queer community must be addressed in order to accommodate to everyone's needs – similar to any other community as well!

      I hope this answered some of your prompts. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts as well! Either on things I mentioned or your own line of questioning. Thanks again!

      Cheers,
      Finch

      1. Iesha Roberts Avatar
        Iesha Roberts

        Hi Finch!

        Ooo I know that feeling of tonal shift; I’m feeling it pretty hard in Twitter right now and it’s kind of unsettling how quickly it’s happening (maybe it’s the new management? I’m not sure).

        That’s actually pretty similar to my experience; growing up in very rural NSW meant that my exposure to in-person LGBTQIA+ concepts was very, very limited until late High School. During those final years, several of my in-person friends came out with various queer identities, and I actually rather feel as though exposure to such concepts online helped them, as it helped me, come to terms with their identities. Though for us, it was usually through fandom spaces… on MySpace and Quizilla (in which Esha is actually a fossil of a bygone era haha–).

        In any case, it’s a pretty tricky question to answer! Inaccessibility is a big one, especially in more rural areas, for in-person spaces as well as online spaces — Internet and mobile phone coverage in certain parts of AU is utterly abysmal sometimes. I feel like, along with online/in-person experiences and spaces, there needs to be room in analogue archives (ie: books) for the queer experience as well, that’s readily available.

        Thanks for the valuable insight and response!

        1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
          Finch.Assadoullaev

          Hi Lesha,

          Oh man, I couldn’t even imagine what’s going on on Twitter – I have an account but not really got into it like I did with Instagram & TikTok. I find that, in general, trends on social media occur and pass by a lot quicker. Even things like memes which used to last months, last a week or two before becoming irrelevant – as if fast fashion tendencies have bled into online humour!

          Though it’s unfortunate that you had limited exposure growing up, it’s heartwarming to hear you talk about it in that way as it indicates how different it is now. Whether it’s the internet or newfound global acceptance or any other combination of things, it’s cool that the expectation is that one will be aware and hopefully educated at a much younger age. Having the vocabulary to describe and means to discover your identity is incredibly beneficial! I’m glad that it happened for you and your friends – it’s never too late.

          Ah, that’s a really good point. Even as someone who is pretty well-versed in queer theory, I’ve often had a hard time finding resources to support or expand my knowledge. Most of the information and literature I’ve found has been through word of mouth thanks to other queer people. You’re definitely right that we need some kind of tangible archive.

          I hope you’ve enjoyed your conference experience! Thanks for sharing,
          Finch

  5. Stephen.B.Bain Avatar
    Stephen.B.Bain

    Hi Lesha & Finch,

    Just letting y’all know I’m enjoying reading your communications … and I’m learning stuff too!

    Steve

  6. Corvin Lajeunesse Avatar
    Corvin Lajeunesse

    Hi Finch,

    Very insightful read! This is clearly a well researched paper. I love how you connected the beginning of our community to the queer community on Tiktok today. I look forward to reading anything else you may publish!

    Take care,
    Corvin

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Corvin,

      Thanks for the kind words and support! Truthfully, there is so much more to explore – hard to condense into a 2000 word paper! hahah
      I enjoyed writing it – glad you enjoyed reading as well!

      Thanks again,
      Finch

  7. Neema.Najafzadeh Avatar
    Neema.Najafzadeh

    Hey Lesha,

    Really enjoyed reading this article as it is very unique in comparison to some of the others!

    After reading your article I found some information interesting which I’d like to share with you:

    – The queer community has thrived on TikTok due to its robust algorithm which provides content specific to the community to which an individual belongs

    – The sharing of resources and increased accessibility on TikTok have been advantages for the queer community

    However, the paper argues that despite these advantages, TikTok is not an adequate replacement for physical queer spaces

    My question to you is, do you think queer communities feel safer communicating on platforms such as TikTok? Do you think people tend to open up more through Tiktok?

    Looking forward to hearing back from you!

    – Neema Najafzadeh

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Neema!

      I think there are definitely certain aspects that make TikTok – and social media in general – a safer place to express yourself.
      The possible anonymity, the ease in changing one’s name & pronouns, the abundance of relatability once you find your community… There are definitely a lot of positives. I think we’re slowly moving out of a curated online persona and into a more candid experience and so, I’m drawn to say yes, that people feel safer to communicate and open up online – at least initially, anyways. If a person has an equivalent in-person community, I think they may feel safer and more authentic there. Unfortunately, this is a rare occurrence for many queer people.
      What do you think?

      Thanks,
      Finch

  8. Jacqueline Avatar
    Jacqueline

    “Any efforts made to combat queer isolation is an act of queer preservation.” This is such a powerful truth! I so enjoyed this entire piece. The breakdown of queer as a term particularly spoke to me and was incredibly validating, as the whole piece was. So often social media and other youth driven platforms are so easily brushed off and diminished when in reality they hold immense power! The community and connections made through these methods are so essential, as you’ve clearly proven in this piece. I completely agree it is not a replacement for physical community and shared space, but the wealth and access of information is undeniably an asset to all members of the queer community. I so appreciate you putting this research together into such a clear and well argued essay, while respecting and honouring the subjects deep emotional roots. Incredibly moving and powerful! Thank you, Finch.

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Jacqueline!!! Thanks for coming by<3

      Thank you for highlighting that phrase – I think it's a good summary of my general outlook on this topic.
      I agree: youth are definitely sorely misunderstood and underestimated. Just before this, I watched a video where a woman was attacking a teen/young adult on national television during a debate about the monarchy stating something along the lines of: "how can we trust your generation to know what you want when you can't even decide what gender you want to be?" (in regards to the person's androgynous gender presentation). It's disheartening to see – which, situations like these is definitely why I wanted to focus on the resilience and power of queer youth! We have done so much work behind the scenes/under the radar to which older generations are too often woefully ignorant.
      I appreciate your appreciation! As you know of course, queer resources are limited and difficult to find – having them tied together in papers and works like these make things a little bit more palatable than academic writings I find.

      Thank you so so much for your praise and I'm glad you enjoyed it! Much love,
      Finch

  9. Isabella Avatar
    Isabella

    Hey Finch,

    Great paper! I think you do an excellent job of bringing to light the importance of community for LGBTQIA+ peoples that have historically and currently been oppressed and/or isolated in society. I think TikTok is an great resource for young LGBTQIA+ youth to begin learning about themselves and becoming comfortable with their own queerness. I think you do an excellent job of touching on how this can open the door for people to find comfort in themselves and find community online when geographically perhaps they are not in a safe place. My worry with this app comes from the potential for hate to be spread to these youth who may already be in delicate mental health situation due to their own internal struggles with their queerness. I think the anonymity that comes with Tiktok, and any social media truly, makes way for hate and discrimination for those in the LGBTQIA+ community. Which can be incredibly damaging and triggering for those who may already be struggling. Whether those who are committing the hate are finding these communities through the hashtags or simply through the algorithm giving them a random video to see if it peaks their interest, in both circumstances the door has been open and marginalized groups who may think they are in a safe space find themselves again unsafe.
    When doing your research for this paper, did you find anything that could combat the potential for hate in this community space?

    Overall, excellent job! Your paper is incredibly insightful! Thank you for the good read!

    -Isabella

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Isabella!!<3

      I definitely agree with you re: ensuring safety for at-risk youth. Truly it is such a delicate balance. On the one hand, the anonymity permits haters as they feel more comfortable expressing themselves behind a disguise. However, this same anonymity permits many individuals to participate in these online spaces without the fear of being discovered by any real-life people.
      Furthermore, I think a lot of the presumed security comes from a certain level of trust in the algorithm. In an ideal world, the algorithm curates the content in such a way that the community is only comprised of like-minded individuals. But, as you mention, this is wishful thinking as videos are often shown to the wrong people. Currently, the lines of defense are mainly the user's responsibility – blocking/reporting, comment filtering, asking their community for support, etc.
      In my research, I didn't come across anything, but through my own personal experience, I can say that social media platforms need to take more responsibility. Even with mechanisms in place such as blocking & reporting, these channels rarely work – I often report content that is incredibly inappropriate, especially on a children's platform, which gets quickly dismissed. I think all social media platforms could stand to have a more robust moderation team.
      The unfortunate matter is that I don't believe that much more will be done to protect user's from hate. Any kind of sensational, attention-grabbing behaviour is beneficial for the platform as it increases engagement – they don't particularly care whether it's positive or negative. Unfortunately, the brunt of the responsibility will probably remain on the users for the foreseeable future. Many offer AI as a possible solution; however, with its inherent built-in biases, this will merely create new insecurities online.

      Thank you for taking the time to read and discuss! I appreciate you,
      Finch

  10. Milkias.Gunsa Avatar
    Milkias.Gunsa

    You’ve done an excellent job outlining the ways in which TikTok has emerged as a vital tool for the queer community, especially in terms of sharing experiences, resources, and forging a supportive network. I especially loved your analysis of queer signalling on TikTok, it’s an insightful analogy to the traditional methods such as the Hanky Code. It’s cool to see how these practices have adapted to the digital realm.

    I wanted to know your thoughts on how the algorithmic nature of TikTok’s content delivery system impact the visibility and reach of queer content? Do you think it helps or hinders the queer community’s representation on the platform?

    Thanks for sharing your insightful work!!

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Milkias,

      Thanks for your compliments! I love little facts such as the use of The Hanky Code – relics of queer resilience and adaptation are so interesting to me. I’m glad you feel the same!

      I definitely believe that the TikTok algorithm is one of the most efficient & successful of all social media platforms. Successful is not always a positive thing.
      On the one hand, it created very distinct regions within its content wherein multiple different communities have grown and flourished, beyond simply the queer community. As well, since the algorithm is tailored to show you content from like-minded individuals, it remains a relatively safe space.
      However, I say relatively since this is not always the case. In the end, the algorithm exists in order to ensure the most engagement possible – TikTok tracks this through a variety of metrics including watch time, likes, comments, saves, shares, etc. Sensational media which inspires engagement is not always positive and thus, a video may end up on “the wrong side of TikTok” and receive exorbitant amounts of hate.
      In terms of representation, I think that the algorithm helps. I feel it has, or had, a good balance between representation and community-building. There was visibility for queer people, while maintaining some level of security, permitting inside jokes, resource-sharing, identity discovery, etc.

      Cheers,
      Finch

  11. Marko Cindric Avatar
    Marko Cindric

    Hi Finch,

    Thank you for all your well-thought-out insight! I particularly loved that concluding sentence — it’s great to see the support and resilience that online queer spaces like queer TikTok provide, but I appreciate the call for diverse avenues of support to meet diverse sets of needs. I feel like having a wide variety of options might even directly correlate to a sort of resilience as well, in much the same way biodiversity in ecosystems might.

    Cheers,
    — Marko Cindric

    1. Finch.Assadoullaev Avatar
      Finch.Assadoullaev

      Hi Marko!!
      Thank you for your appreciation of my writing.

      I love the way you think & reframe. The comparison to biodiversity is spot on! Down to the resurgence and disappearance of various resources according to the needs of the ecosystem. This helps me come to terms with the ever-changing queer landscape on, not only TikTok, but the Internet as a whole. Nature works in mysterious ways but I suppose you have to trust that the result will be better suited to the needs of the community!

      Thanks again,
      Finch

  12. Despina Karatzias Avatar

    Hi Finch,

    Congratulations on a most excellent and well-articulated paper.

    It’s incredibly fascinating to read your paper about the power of TikTok and its role in particular during the isolation of the pandemic, to aid self-expression creatively and find support. Your paper demonstrates how TikTok has developed into a thriving environment for queer content creators and audiences to challenge stereotypes, share personal narratives, and connect with people who have similar experiences and identities.

    I couldn’t agree more with you that having an online community is better than no community at all, and there needs to be a multifaceted strategy beyond TikTok in order to better support and empower queer youth and their futures.

    I am curious to know in your experience and research, do you have any examples you can draw on how TikTok has impacted queer representation and visibility in mainstream media?

    Warmest,

    Despina

  13. May Avatar
    May

    Hi Finch!

    Great analysis of the role TikTok plays in the formation of queer communities online. I think you bring up great and very important points about the role of physical communities in the safety and preservation of minority groups. It’s easy to see the large online presence the queer community takes up, but offline the struggles continue to be very real and difficult. With legislatures being passed actively harming queer people it’s hard to say that the world is truly moving forward. I totally agree that the online communities formed cannot replace the offline efforts that need to be made in normalizing discussions around queer issues. I commonly hear people refer to things as “chronically online” as a way to delegitimize certain issues. Your points about the lack of education surrounding trans issues within the medical field highlights this I believe. As many refuse to acknowledge trans people in the “real” world, believing they solely exist online as a persona. It’s important for queer people to occupy physical spaces in the world in order to emphasize the importance of their existence. Though it’s much easier said then done.
    Overall great job! This was a really great paper on the importance of physical communities for queer people and legitimizing their struggles to the public and I enjoyed reading it very much!

    – May

  14. Veronica Sparks Avatar
    Veronica Sparks

    Hi Finch

    Epic paper. Really like the way you write so thoughtfully and present your arguments. The Elders gap, something I learned here, it’s got to change. What are some things Australia could do differently, for example, to change this?

    It’s interesting how society assumes social media is enough of a space to exist in, like a babysitter for a society that has limited thought processes. Do you think transferring the social media space into real world spaces is the answer? Or do you think there’s other things that would work?

    Kind regards
    Veronica Sparks

  15. Avinash Assonne Avatar
    Avinash Assonne

    Hi Finch,

    Your paper was a very interesting read. Indeed, digital platforms such as TikTok continue to encourage social behavior driven by the need for community acceptability.

    It’s nice that you wrote about a topic that somehow relates directly to yourself. Would you consider some of your writings as some of your personal experiences? It’s like we are getting a first person point of view maybe? Your paper did a job on elaborating thoroughly on how TikTok is supporting the queer community and how it has become a haven for them. I’m not really an avid TikTok user but it was nice to discover and learn new things about this app mainly involving the queer community through your paper.

    Regards,
    Avinash

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